Summer Challenge! Find a friend

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Registered: 12-14-2006
Summer Challenge! Find a friend
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Tue, 07-03-2007 - 7:09pm

Pam's post (and the many thoughtful responses) got me thinking. It's hard making friends. We see how hard our kiddos struggle to make and keep good friends. But we also heard this week how hard it is for us to make new friends as adults. We're not in school anymore. Our jobs may or may not be a source of casual friendship, and many of us don't work outside the home.

But, there seemed to be almost 100% agreement that having friends, in addition to our DHs and our DKiddos, is very important. It helps give us an identity outside of wife/mother, it helps refresh us for our mommy moments, and it's just plain fun.

So, here's my Summer Challenge to all you POTs - between now and Labor Day - reach out to one new friend, or re-connect with an old friend, or just push a casual neighbor relationship to that next level, or whatever! Find a Friend. ((Thinking about Julie, who's about to move states with W and C, and what she would tell them to do in their new neighborhood. LOL. Join a club, say hi to someone you don't know yet, ask a neighbor to come out and play)).

Let us know how it works, or what you did, and even if it doesn't work.

Sue

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Registered: 01-29-2004
Tue, 07-03-2007 - 7:48pm

Hi Sue,

Actually, I think I've already done this! I'm very excited about it. When we hosted our DD's graduation party, we invited her friends of course, but several kids we invited their parents too since we knew them, at least casually. We chatted up and made connections with five couples, all of who will be empty nesters come August. The moms are feeling somewhat unsure of this transition, and even the dads are feeling like, "wow, what do we do now?" So we've already talked to a few of the couple more than once about making plans once the kids are gone. I'm going to host a party for the moms in August. I think we'll all need that support! So although I am sad that our DD is leaving, I'm excited that we already feel like we have some social plans to look forward to.

Nancy

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Registered: 12-14-2006
Thu, 07-05-2007 - 7:12am

~*~*BUMP~*~*

Bumping this up, just in case it got lost in 4th of July holiday

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Registered: 02-14-2007
Thu, 07-05-2007 - 1:25pm
OK, but it ain't gonna be easy!! Good idea!
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Registered: 12-14-2006
Thu, 07-05-2007 - 2:03pm

Going out tonight with two women who I've said "we should get together sometime" to for two years. We know each other through the Temple's Parents Association, but have never taken the step to do things together (other than a cup of coffee or a long walk while waiting for our kids). Tonight we're meeting for a glass of wine!

Yay!

Sue