Sure is quiet in here

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Sure is quiet in here
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Thu, 09-22-2011 - 1:16pm

How are your teens doing? Settling into the school routine? Balancing school and extra-curriculars/jobs? Any recent romances or heartbreaks? Let's hear some updates!

Although my boys aren't teens many of you know me. Jason has one more week after this up at Loyola med school before he gets a week off for fall break. He's had 4 of 5 tests so far and a group project. The test results he told us about were good. They say they don't grade there but you can either pass with honors, high pass, pass, or fail. Kind of like A, B, C or F. In one class as long as he can get a 76% on the final next week he'll pass that one with honors. He seems happy although somewhat stressed during exam time - he's a bit of a perfectionist. He and his fiance have (thankfully) let go of the idea of getting married next summer. They are looking at possibly 2013 after his fiance graduates in December 2012.

Justin has been working full time at a local call center for almost 2 months. He's still living at home. Mentions moving out on occasion; I suspect that may happen sometime next year if he decides to keep on the full time path as opposed to going back to school. So far he seems good with this decision but of course I hope he goes back at some point to at least get an associates or certificate or something post-high school! He's been dating a girl for almost 8 months. I've not mentioned her here because she's young (a 17 year old h.s. junior) and I tried to ignore it hoping it would go away at first. We were less than thrilled in the beginning, especially before she turned 17 as the age of consent here in IL is 17. But her parents are OK with it although both sets of parents tried to discourage things early on. They complied and 'broke up' for a week or two but to be honest - I've not seen Justin this happy in years. They laugh and joke and tease each other. When he was with Danielle, even early on, he just seemed miserable and by the end he could hardly stand to be around her.

So that's what's going on with my no-longer-teens. How about everyone else?

Pam
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Fri, 09-23-2011 - 11:17am

So even when you get them out of the house and on their own, the parenting is still going on!

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Fri, 09-23-2011 - 11:34am

DS is only finishing up his 3rd week of 1th grade--we start a little later here.

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Fri, 09-23-2011 - 12:21pm

DD 17 is 3 weeks into senior year.

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Fri, 09-23-2011 - 8:27pm

Dear Another heart mom,

When it comes to public schools, THE SQEAKY WHEEL GETS THE GREASE.

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Sat, 09-24-2011 - 4:44pm
Hi Sarbtooth,

thank you. I guess I should have told you all that I'm in Canada, so things work differently here. I dont know what a 504 is, but we do have IEP's. here, we have to have the official designation first and then the rest falls into place. my problem was that they were trying to tell me my kids didnt have the designation, when in fact they do. it has happened to another family that I know where the school infact used the funding her children had for other kids. their argument to her was that they get the funding but it's up to them how they use that,which made me wonder if that's what was happening where my boys are concerned. I got the document in on friday and I addressed it to the principal and the two counsellors, so all three of them are getting a copy and there is no way they can say it didnt arrive. I also put a note in each one asking each one to email me as soon as they receive it. I expect to hear from them next week and if I dont I will be making that appointment and going in to see what exactly is going on.. I do know that the beginning of the year is stressful for the staff, and our teachers are on job action,so all they are doing is teaching, no extras such as coaching etc. but I believe the counsellors are not part of the teachers union ( I could be wrong ) but if they are, then that would explain the lack of involvement on their part. Thanks again for all the information and I hope to have this resolved very soon!
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Sat, 09-24-2011 - 4:48pm
Thank you Kimmy,

I am that squeaky wheel, lol! I do not go away just because they ignore me and I do think they were hoping that I would. if anything it gets me more irritated and I am in their face more, but nicely I might add, lol. I am not familiar with the public school system at all and so am finding myself very frustrated, but I will get thru it and get my kids what they need. we are in Canada, so things are diferent here I guess.
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Sat, 09-24-2011 - 9:11pm
Bureaucrats are much the same the world over. I doubt "Oh Canada my home and native land" is an exception. Be polite, but stay on their case.
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Sun, 09-25-2011 - 11:42am

Hi anotherheartmom.

You are in BC?

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Sun, 09-25-2011 - 11:57am

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Sun, 09-25-2011 - 6:21pm

I had this whole long post, and Ivillage ate it, so here's the cliff notes version...

Your assessment process, your IEP's, your budget system--same as ours.

Do NOT accept the school assessment as the final word.