Sure is quiet in here

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Sure is quiet in here
Thu, 09-22-2011 - 1:16pm

How are your teens doing? Settling into the school routine? Balancing school and extra-curriculars/jobs? Any recent romances or heartbreaks? Let's hear some updates!

Although my boys aren't teens many of you know me. Jason has one more week after this up at Loyola med school before he gets a week off for fall break. He's had 4 of 5 tests so far and a group project. The test results he told us about were good. They say they don't grade there but you can either pass with honors, high pass, pass, or fail. Kind of like A, B, C or F. In one class as long as he can get a 76% on the final next week he'll pass that one with honors. He seems happy although somewhat stressed during exam time - he's a bit of a perfectionist. He and his fiance have (thankfully) let go of the idea of getting married next summer. They are looking at possibly 2013 after his fiance graduates in December 2012.

Justin has been working full time at a local call center for almost 2 months. He's still living at home. Mentions moving out on occasion; I suspect that may happen sometime next year if he decides to keep on the full time path as opposed to going back to school. So far he seems good with this decision but of course I hope he goes back at some point to at least get an associates or certificate or something post-high school! He's been dating a girl for almost 8 months. I've not mentioned her here because she's young (a 17 year old h.s. junior) and I tried to ignore it hoping it would go away at first. We were less than thrilled in the beginning, especially before she turned 17 as the age of consent here in IL is 17. But her parents are OK with it although both sets of parents tried to discourage things early on. They complied and 'broke up' for a week or two but to be honest - I've not seen Justin this happy in years. They laugh and joke and tease each other. When he was with Danielle, even early on, he just seemed miserable and by the end he could hardly stand to be around her.

So that's what's going on with my no-longer-teens. How about everyone else?



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Thu, 09-22-2011 - 1:41pm

Greg, my HS sophomore (age 15), is having a good year.

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Thu, 09-22-2011 - 2:52pm
DS19 is finishing his 4th week of soph year of college this week; says he's doing well but is tired (in 7 classes) - mostly because his on-campus apartment is at the opposite end of campus of 5 of his classes, 3 of which are art classes where he has to lug a bunch of materials. He works 2 8-hour shifts at one of our local 'museums' on Friday and Saturday nights, and between that, his school schedule and his gf of a year's schedule (she's studying to be a nurse), he never gets to see her - that's his biggest complaint. But they're solid so at least that's good.

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Thu, 09-22-2011 - 3:48pm

16yo DD started off the school year having close to a nervous breakdown.

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Thu, 09-22-2011 - 6:33pm

Typical life around here.

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Thu, 09-22-2011 - 8:36pm

Connor (17), college freshman, is enjoying school.

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Thu, 09-22-2011 - 9:21pm

Oh, Elisabeth, we could compare notes on our aspies.

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Thu, 09-22-2011 - 11:25pm
I dont post much, but read lots. here's our update.

all three of my boys are attending the same school now, I moved my twins to the public highschool after moving my oldest last year. my oldest really wanted to change schools, the former school was just not suited to him or his brothers. after seeing how things were, I decided the other two could move over too.

my twins have learning issues related to Tourettes, and the school they were attending was highly academic without any shop classes at all. there are a few electives, but mostly it's a university prep school, and my boys are not academic at all. my boys had attended that school since kindergarten, so it was really hard to leave, more for me than them apparently, lol. when we first put our kids there, we loved that they could have graduated with kids they knew their entire lives. the school had woodshop at the time and was proud in raising well-rounded children, but a few years ago, the head of school changed the focus and went with the university prep / IB style school. so we struggled for many years with moving them or not. I kept them in until the end of middle school as the middle school had an awesome learning resource department which my kids were a part of. they basically had one on one attention for a lot of the day and had a wonderful TA for three years. we cried in each others arms on the last day of school.

so now they are in the new school and are settling in quite well, love their shop classes and love the casual atmosphere ( no uniforms, lol ) but I am having trouble getting my boys the resource class they desperately need. in march when I registered and had them pick their courses, I told the counsellors about their need for resource class. I sent in their education assessments and received a panicked phone call from the counsellor saying they needed resource to which I replied I know, and that I had already told her that. the start of the year, and no resource class. it;s been almost three weeks and I dont know how many emails later, but finally the principal said I was missing a key document, that I thought was included in the assessments. I told him that I would get it to them, but why in the world did it take three weeks, or months for that matter to tell me! he said they just noticed it now, yeah right. I will have my oldest deliver the papers tomorrow and hopefully they will have resource quickly! A was going to the library as he didnt have a class, and they put M in an elective, but even he told me he wants resource, lol. they know it will help them and Lord knows they need the help!

other than that, everything here is good. we are looking to move closer to school now that all of them are over there, the school is in the next town over. we could stay, but I think it would be nice to be in the same neighborhood as their school, they could walk home or if we move rurally there would be a school bus. the bus doesnt come this way so we have to drive them right now.
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Fri, 09-23-2011 - 8:48am
Jordyn (16 & a junior) has been swamped with school work since day one, so between work, 2 cheer teams, and school work, I barely see hide nor hair of her. She's home 1 night a week before 8:30-9 and most weekends she's either hauled up in her room doing homework or out doing photoshoots for photography club and sometimes picking up a few extra hours at work. She's been extremely stressed out already with one particular class. But we did have a good talk the other night and I think that helped. She was in a much better mood Wednesday and Thursday night. She'll actually be home most of this weekend, and watching the little girls for us for a date night. She's not getting as many hours at work, so picking up some babysitting time is helping towards her camera she is saving up for, although we are thinking her truck isn't going to last a whole lot longer, so we're deciding how to deal with that issue.

My parents will be in Texas in 2 weeks for their annual fall visit (they are in Michigan), and we're going to head down to the coast for a few days of fun in the sun. Other than that, not a lot going on with us.
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Fri, 09-23-2011 - 8:50am

Public school is much more suited to the child with disabilities, since the school has federal incentive to provide needed services.

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Fri, 09-23-2011 - 10:10am

it's good to read your update, Pam (and everyone else's); I'm glad the boys-especially Justin-are doing well.

Things here are relatively quiet. Dd21 is back in school and I couldn't be happier. She is living at home and we are providing lots of support (I drive her every day) but she's doing okay, even in her analytical chem class, with a prof she has had before and dislikes. And she's still working, which is also great. The job wants to hire her fulltime when she graduates, which would be wonderful.

Dd18 is incredibly busy, but doing well. I feel slightly guilty that she has an overload of credits and gave up choir in order to try and finish in three years, but she knows that money is tight and wants to do her part. Her arthritis has been a little rough, but I hope that will improve.

The boys are doing great- it's fun to see ds11 in middle school. He's much like dh- quiet, engineer type brain...