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teasing issues
| Wed, 01-31-2007 - 10:47am |
my son is 14 and has had some problems with acne. on a daily basis all he heres from kids is wash your face and use proactive in fact they call him proactive. he seems to deal with this ok, but i know that it affects him inside even though he doesnt show it. well now i just heard the other day not from him that at lunch some kids threw a cloth at him and a whole table of kids were laughing at lunch. i think the behavior is getting out of control. should i contact the school or should i just let him deal with this.

This is heart breaking to me! I was teased for the very same reason and it hurts bad! This is bullying and I thought the school had a zero tolerance for this kindof behavior!!
I am so sorry that ds is going through this!! My friends dd was having this same problem, she thought her dd was handling it, however it escalated to the point that these girls treatened to throw acid on her face-my friend went to the school and put a stop to it! I think that maybe you should contact the school because throwing things at him is not right and it could grow into something bigger!!
I have my 16YO ds and my 12YO dd on medications for their acne that was very horrible, my dd may end up at a dermatologists office because what the regular dr. gave her is not really working! Maybe this is an option for your ds, sometimes it takes more than washing and proactive didin't work for my children!
I hope this helped a bit! I hope the teasing stops for ds soon, it really does pain me to see this happen to kids! They all go through stuff like this so why do they pick on eachother!?
Virginia
If you haven't taken him to see a dermatologist, that would be my first suggestion. There are so many medications that help with this.
I would not call the school without his permission. My DD would have been furious if I called the school over some teasing w/o her knowledge and approval.
Recently I attended a yoga workshop presented by an internist who studied, and now practices, ayurvedic medicine. Much of what he discussed makes a lot of sense; and then there was some far-fetched stuff. I'm a big believer in using herbal/natural remedies first, before trying all the manufactured products. You may want to suggest to your son some of the remedies in this link:
http://www.ayurvedahc.com/articlelive/articles/171/1/Skin-Care-for-Acne-prone-Skin/Page1.html
(Haven't tried any for acne, but I have used garlic on a plantars wart and it worked.)
The teasing is bad. DS17 is sometimes teased by his friends about zits, but he does not have a serious acne problem. When DS17 is teased, I use it as an opportunity to remind him that he should not tease others rather than viewing it as something terrible the other kids are doing, because I know sometimes DS teases his friends, too. I agree with OP who said that you should get your son's permission before talking to the school about the teasing.
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