Teen affecting relationship

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Registered: 09-26-2001
Teen affecting relationship
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Wed, 01-09-2008 - 12:38pm

I have been dating my boyfriend for am little over two years now, he has a 19 year old and 14 year old , the 14 year old is spoiled , disrecpecful and manipulative. I thought I could deal with it at first, but now its really getting to me. I mean, to see how the kid just gets away with everything and anything. The father will say no at first to what ever it is hes trying to get , but then he ' ll give in. Let me give you a perfect example. When we are going out in the car the kid will find a way to convince his father to let him sit in the front and he (the father or I ) will sit in the back

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Tue, 01-15-2008 - 11:05am

I totally agree with you!

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Registered: 09-26-2001
Tue, 01-15-2008 - 4:37pm

Hi.


Yes, I have said to my BF that I would like to sit in the front for various reasons , its safer for the child to sit in the back , its safer for me when Im driving

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Registered: 11-28-1999
Tue, 01-15-2008 - 4:49pm

If it were me, I wouldn't be having convs. about future living arrangements (which do affect this boy) right in front of him and not expect him to say something.


Assuming that you are right that dad just doesn't like to discipline him because he wants to be his friend, doesn't like confrontation, etc. I hope you will get this issue straightened out before you move in together.

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Tue, 01-15-2008 - 10:03pm

One thing I have learned from this board

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Tue, 01-15-2008 - 11:47pm

Well said!

It isnt about right or wrong or better or worse

Sometimes two viewpoints are just so opposing that you can see the storm brewing-be it how folks spend their money or how they relate to their children

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Registered: 09-26-2001
Wed, 01-16-2008 - 10:04am
Trust me that is exactly what I feel like doing sometimes. I really love my bf , but this
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Registered: 09-26-2001
Wed, 01-16-2008 - 10:20am

The problem with that is,

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Registered: 09-26-2001
Wed, 01-16-2008 - 10:23am

So , in your oppinion he only ows respect to his family.

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Registered: 11-28-1999
Wed, 01-16-2008 - 10:41am

As a person in a 2nd marriage where DH & I have pretty diff. ideas about parenting, I can tell you that it makes for a lot of stress on everyone, parents & kids.

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Registered: 09-26-2001
Wed, 01-16-2008 - 10:48am

No.