Teen Breakups - what to do??

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Registered: 08-04-2005
Teen Breakups - what to do??
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Fri, 08-11-2006 - 9:25pm

My son (a senior) just got dumped by his GF of 1.5 years ( a junior). She is now dating someone on his soccer team. BUT, she keeps calling him, telling him she loves him still, but sh'e just mixed up - stringing him along. My DH and I keep up the encouragement, and 'showing we care' without being too noisy, but he's really hurting, and she won't stop with the text messages. Should I call her and tell her to stop - should I talk to her parents - who I see around sometimes to talk to her.

She's a nice enough girl, but she IS 16, and looking at son doing college visits, and getting ready to leave in a year or so. He's really hurting, and this has now been going on for a week.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Fri, 09-08-2006 - 2:17pm

18dd's BF recently cheated on her and of course my initial thoughts were "I hope she dumps him!" but I didn't say that. Instead when she talked to me about it, I tried to ask simple thought provoking questions. I had a letter I was dying to give her and it never seemed right until one night when she asked what she should do...I revised my letter so that it didn't include any of my personal thoughts, just the questions I would hope a decent girlfriend would ask me if I were in her shoes at 18.

Anyway, mirroring is an excellent way to discuss things with them without them becoming offended or enraged over a comment that may slip out. Better to just be there and let them figure it out.

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Registered: 09-08-2006
Fri, 09-08-2006 - 3:39pm
Thank you so much for the advise.I am going to give it a try!!!!!All I care about is that he finishes his grade 12 and has a happy life.

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