Teen girl and first intimacies - please help

Absolutely don't go silent.

I just had to add that I wouldn't really expect a teenager who was going to have sex to tell you & ask you for BC--some will do it but some will either be too embarrassed or feel their parents will be mad & then not let them see their BF or GF.

I understand that you didn't see it coming but, remember, two years of friendship is actually a stronger base to build a relationship on than what most relationships are built on.

They screwed up. Too much, too soon, too young.

Technology just makes these things too easy, I suppose. Although girls were letting boys take pictures of them nude back in my time. Parents simply didn't find them, don't you think? I never went there myself and, frankly, part of that was discomfort with my own body(although I WISH I had pictures now; hey, I looked darn good back then ;)) I do know DH had a collection of former GFs pictures-notice the "had".

Anyway, you can get past this-keep communicating, keep a close eye on her, and certainly discuss birth control and STDs.