Teen girl and first intimacies - please help

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Registered: 05-16-2011
Teen girl and first intimacies - please help
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Mon, 05-16-2011 - 11:40pm

I'm panicking right now... My 16 yo daughter is talented and has had 2 nice boyfriends.

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Registered: 02-14-2000
Tue, 05-17-2011 - 8:24pm

Good point - I still have the bad habit of 'going silent' when ds21 does something stupid. I have to keep reminding myself that at his age what his parents think/feel are really not even a blip on the radar...

Pam
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Registered: 11-01-2001
Tue, 05-17-2011 - 9:36pm

Absolutely don't go silent.

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Registered: 05-16-2011
Wed, 05-18-2011 - 2:06am

Thank you all for the good advice.

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Registered: 11-28-1999
Wed, 05-18-2011 - 1:40pm

I just had to add that I wouldn't really expect a teenager who was going to have sex to tell you & ask you for BC--some will do it but some will either be too embarrassed or feel their parents will be mad & then not let them see their BF or GF.

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Registered: 05-27-1998
Wed, 05-18-2011 - 4:20pm

I think what your daughter experienced is a lot more common than the deep romantic relationship that eventually

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Mon, 05-23-2011 - 9:36pm

I understand that you didn't see it coming but, remember, two years of friendship is actually a stronger base to build a relationship on than what most relationships are built on.

They screwed up. Too much, too soon, too young.

Technology just makes these things too easy, I suppose. Although girls were letting boys take pictures of them nude back in my time. Parents simply didn't find them, don't you think? I never went there myself and, frankly, part of that was discomfort with my own body(although I WISH I had pictures now; hey, I looked darn good back then ;)) I do know DH had a collection of former GFs pictures-notice the "had".

Anyway, you can get past this-keep communicating, keep a close eye on her, and certainly discuss birth control and STDs.

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Registered: 05-27-1998
Tue, 05-24-2011 - 11:49am

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