Teen lies

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Registered: 05-25-2007
Teen lies
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Thu, 06-14-2007 - 1:43pm
My dd bf broke up with her 2 months ago. I know that they had been sexually active for some time. She has been to the gynocologist and is on bc. She was devastated by the breakup and has been trying to get him back. She recently got her driver's license. I found out though myspace that she was with him yesterday when she told me that she was somewhere else. How do I confront her with this? She doesn't know that I can access her myspace and if she finds out she will block me or start a new one up. I have talked to her a lot about this breakup and how she just needs to let it go. But the sexual ties are strong. This bf calls her when he wants her around then treats her like dirt when he doesn't. I have told her that I won't try to stop her from seeing him, but she is not allowed to go to his house without a parent being home. That's what she did yesterday. Sorry for rambling. Help!
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Registered: 02-22-2004
In reply to: mcthom
Thu, 06-14-2007 - 1:59pm
I hate to say this, but I'm not sure there's much you can do. If you forbid her to see him, she'll just sneak around - like she did yesterday. This may be one lesson that she has to learn on her own, and I'm sure there are plenty of teenage couples these days who have a relationship like this. One thing maybe you could do is talk to his parents, but who knows if that will even help. I am finding through my dd that not all parents are as supportive to other parents and strict with their kids than I am. I've talked to parents before, and some of them brush me off cause it's "just a teen thing... the way they act" is what I get.
Maybe at this point just "guide" her with out "dragging". Does she know that you know she's active with him? I'm assuming so, since she's on bc? I would definitely talk to her about STD's and about how the pill does not protect against them.