Teen son and older woman
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Teen son and older woman
| Sun, 07-15-2007 - 2:31pm |
I'm new to ivillage, and to chat and message boards, but I need help! I just found out my son sent $500.00 on his 17th birthday to a "friend" he plays WOW with. Come to find out, he sent it to her to keep her out of jail because she owed child support. More digging, and now it seems they're in a "relationship" and have discussed eloping, although he told her he's not ready for that. She is 27, divorced with 3 kids, in a different state. I'm freaking out. He is naive and immature emotionally for his age. He hasn't even had a girlfriend at school before. I don't want to freak out on him and scare him off to her. I'm not very internet savvy, so I don't know what my options are in finding her, or finding out any more info on her. I have not yet let my son know what I know, as I want to be careful what I say to him. Please help!

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Oh, geez, I worry about this with my 15 yr old. One of the players in his group(they have a name but I dont recall)is a woman in her late 20s who broke up with her BF because she spent too much time on the game!!!!
How much have you spoken to him about this stuff? Can you address it without revealing the 500 dollar scheme knowledge? Ask about his friends-ages, sex, place of residence.
Use this board and my 15 yr olds 'friend' who is 28/29, if you like. Tell him I'm worried as my son is innocent, shy and naive and unlikely to date in HS. See what he thinks about MY situation with his 17 yr old wisdom. Would he say I am worrying for nothing? Etc Etc
Mine plays "Silk Road" btw.
How do you know she is 27 divorced with 3 kids and lives in another state?
How about disconnect the internet in your home! This is a serious issue. So if you have to, take away his internet at home and he won't have as easy access to it. And I agree. This lady (IF it's a she) could say anything, she could send photos of 'herself' that might not even be her. And I do think she's scamming him as well. BAD situation that needs a grip put on it now!
JMHO
Well from what you say, either:
(a) she is what she is and she and your son have developed a sort of bond or relationship, or
(b) she is preying on your son's innocence to get money, or
(c) she is or is not what she is and is attempting to lure him away for some nefarious reason.
Whatever the truth, your son may end up feeling used, betrayed, victimized, humiliated and embarassed.
I'm curious though, how did you find all the stuff out that you do know? You claim to not be internet savvy but you are savvy enough to have determined this persons age, status, money he sent her and discussions/conversations they had. How did you manage that? How could you know all this and not manage to contact this woman yourself, threaten her with some action or whatever and warn her off your son?
This all sounds a bit fishy to me, quite honestly, but if this is legit what is going on is dangerous for your son and I think you MUST confront him. You have to be able to talk to him and find out what exactly is going on even if you have to put on a front to ask him to invite the "woman" to your house or maybe a phone call so you can all "get to know one another". Draw this person out if you must...
This should be reported at www.cybertipline.com immediately. No question about it. Just make a report and if they find out what kind of person she really is, your son will realize that he could have put himself at risk.
Report this!
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