Teen Soulmate?

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Teen Soulmate?
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Thu, 02-23-2006 - 2:04pm
Do you think a teenager can find their soulmate in high school? My 18 yr old daughter has met a wonderful boy, also 18. It's her second boyfriend. He's a very nice boy and from all indications, they're both equally in love with each other as well as very compatible. Both will go on to college next year (probably different colleges although they may attend the same college) and will be separated by perhaps a 45 minute drive. My daughter has already indicated that she might like to marry this boy. She feels he's a perfect match for her and that they're both totally happy. Do you think it's possible to find a soulmate this young? I went on to college and then met my husband years later. I really didn't meet anyone until then that I felt I could connect with. Do you think it's possible to find "true love" this young?

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In reply to: lisak613
Thu, 02-23-2006 - 2:20pm

Is it possible to find 'true love' in HS? Sure, I think so. It may be "true love" but it may not be "everlasting love", you know what I mean?

I think that maybe right now at this point in thier lives, they probably are a perfect match. Who they will be when college, and all it's experiences, is over may be very different from who they are today. Maybe they will grow together in the same direction, but maybe not.

My sister has been married to her HS sweetheart for 26 years (3 kids) and they are still in love, they still call each other pet names and they've made it through a lot of bumps along the way. Thier relationship is the envy of many. I personally think it is a RARE situation.

I think we meet many 'soulmates' over the course of our lives - who we end up with as our everlasting love may be the least likely person.

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In reply to: lisak613
Thu, 02-23-2006 - 3:54pm
Short answer...YES!

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Registered: 08-03-2004
In reply to: lisak613
Thu, 02-23-2006 - 4:05pm
Yes I think it is possible. I met my husband when I was a senior only 17 yrs old and he was 21. We are still married today and have a strong relationship even with all the head butting we have been doing over raising our teen daughter. My parents met at the ages of 15 and 18 and still have a very loving relationship. Although, in my parents day that was common to get married right out of high school but to still be so close today is rather rare but it is so cute....it sometimes makes my husband and I roll our eyes at eachother...lol. I agree with heartsandroses, your dd and her bf probably are perfect for eachother now but only time will tell if they will grow together and continue along the same path or if they will grow apart. As long as everything is going well I would just go with the flow and see what the future brings.
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Registered: 08-05-2004
In reply to: lisak613
Thu, 02-23-2006 - 4:06pm

Possible? Yes. Likely? No.


I would strongly encourage her to wait until after college to walk down the aisle.


There have been several boys/men who I thought were "the one." And they were my perfect match... at the time. Now I can't even fathom being married to any of them. Not that they're not good guys (they are), they're just not for me.

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In reply to: lisak613
Thu, 02-23-2006 - 4:30pm

Possible?

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In reply to: lisak613
Thu, 02-23-2006 - 4:42pm

Had you asked this question several years ago, I would have answered "no". I would have said that they are too young, that they don't know themselves, that they don't know what they wanted out of life. However, I've changed my opinion in the last few years since I've met several couples who were HS sweethearts, married and have remained married. These are couples who are now in their 40's. So my answer today is, "yes" it's possible.

Mily

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In reply to: lisak613
Thu, 02-23-2006 - 5:24pm

Is it possible? Sure, it's possible. Is it probable? Probably not.

I have to agree with the main sentiment of the rest of the crew here. Just because they are "soulmates" now, doesn't necessarily mean they will be "soulmates" forever. My sister married her hs bf, but not until they had *almost* graduated college. They are still happily married after nearly 30 years. On the other hand, had I married every boy I thought was "the one", I would be on divorce number 5 or 6. As it is, I waited until I was 30 before I got married and *still* didn't get it right! LOL go figure...

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Registered: 08-20-2001
In reply to: lisak613
Thu, 02-23-2006 - 7:11pm

I do believe that teens can find there soul mate. My brother and his wife met and started dating when she was 13 and he was 15. They never broke up during that time. They will be married 21 years in July. My son and his girlfriend I could lean towards soul mates.

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In reply to: lisak613
Thu, 02-23-2006 - 9:20pm
I believe I met my soul mate when I was a senior in high school. But, even though I loved that guy through and through, I couldn't love him through drug use and broke things off with him. He popped up in my life again and again for the rest of his life. But, he died about 9 years ago of a drug over dose. It feels really odd to say that. I'm happily married now, to a guy who is very similar in a lot of ways. So I'd say that it is possible, but I wouldn't expect them to have a mature love for a few years.
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Registered: 07-19-2003
In reply to: lisak613
Thu, 02-23-2006 - 11:00pm

Yes I think you can find "true love" at 18. Its really not THAT young. We're not speaking of freshmen here. These are young adults ready to go off to college. It is highly conceivable for them to be in love.

I wouldn't worry too much about the marriage talk and all that right now other than to advise your daughter that she should complete her education before thinking of any firm commitment to marry. These next few years are highly formative years for young adults and so much can shift and change.

I met my husband at 18. We married when we were 23. It was a good marriage for ten years or so and then things didn't work out for us. Looking back I see alot of mistakes but hindsight is 20/20 and no marriage comes with guarantees (not even "soulmates"). But I do know people who married young and had long-lasting happy relationships.

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