Teenage Daughter Confidence Problems?
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|Wed, 10-19-2011 - 5:39pm|
Happens a lot I know but my daughter has actually become MORE confident in her appearance lately, but problems still arise.
She was excited over Halloween this year and was uncomfortable with the "slut-undertone" her friend had said there must be at the halloween party. However she made her own changed (she is nearly 15 and knows how to sew, ect) and got a long black maxidress. She cut a slit up the side but was aghast at hoe wide it went and made a web design with shoelaces in order to keep it held together while keeping up with the rest of the party.
However now she is getting down, complaining that like last year and the year before everyone is going to turn up in leotards or crop tops with tiny shorts again with just animal ears and she thinks she is going to be the "odd one out". I told her she could wear the leotard is she wanted, I didn't mind but she said "no because it'll be too cold for that and I'll get weird people looking at me..." I knew she would give this answer because half the reason under it is that I know she might actually if she had smaller thighs. She did horseriding and does ballet and I think she's got fine legs but of course there are a punch of model stick figures at school. She is lovely though with a nice figure due to good genes from the other side of the family. However she thinks her tummy pokes out a bit. She says "I know it's not fat and it's a flat tummy but it juts out and looks like fat".
Obviously I don't WANT her wearing leotards or crop tops but it would be nice if she was not wearing them soley for impracticalities and not for "problems" with her figure.
The min issue is that after all the tailoring and all the work on the dress she isn't sure if she wants to wear it, or even go anymore. She was very excited at having a "project" to complete (she set herself little tasks like fixing her GameBoy Color, just because she likes that kind of thing. I don't put her up to it) and now it is completed she feels that she is going to go and be the odd one out AGAIN who didn't come in skimpy clothes or leotard and that the pictures will go up on FaceBook and she will get laughed at....
Any way to get her past this? I think she did an excellent job on the dress and it would be a shame if she didn't get to wear it after all her work. She was proud of it and happy to wear it too until all her friends said they were dressing up in a leotard with puppy ears to be a "dog", or likewise with rabbit ears or cat ears (with maybe a tail too)...