Teenage daughter cutting...

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Registered: 07-10-2011
Teenage daughter cutting...
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Sun, 07-10-2011 - 2:18pm

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Registered: 06-28-2011
Mon, 07-18-2011 - 8:48am

Unfortunately this weekend I ended up having to take my son to the ER for a Psych eval because he got so upset over me cutting off his cell phone that he took a lighter to his arm, and burned a spot on it (not more than 1st or 2nd degree...but still!).

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Registered: 05-27-1998
Tue, 07-12-2011 - 6:29pm

Not all cutting is that obvious. Some kids do it on their upper thighs, or they'll cut superficially so that it heals in a matter of days. It's good that you are taking it seriously, though!

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Registered: 06-28-2011
Mon, 07-11-2011 - 10:14am

Ok, this is sounding eerily similar to some issues my Son is having (withdrawl from things he once loved, telling other people that I kicked him out (I didn't), feeling worthless, etc.).....Do you know WHERE your daughter was cutting?

The reason I ask is my son mentioned once to me that he used to cut, but says since he has this GF he doesn't anymore, but I was just floored....I figured if he was cutting I would see it...it would be obvious, right? I mean he goes around shirtless all the time and I never saw any marks on his arms or torso....never on his feet (he goes barefoot alot too)...so I'm just wondering if you know where your daughter cut herself?

We just recently started counseling too BTW....not sure if I'll be able to get him on Meds, but am exploring that option as well.

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Sun, 07-10-2011 - 11:07pm
Is the private Christian school that she'd attend for her freshman year the same one she's been attending or where those she knows will attend? If so, then I'd not allow her to attend the public school (my kid goes to public and I'm not a Christian, btw).

There's nothing wrong with public school in general, but she might want to attend so that she can melt into the background where she and her problems can go unnoticed. If she attends a school where she is known, then she'll be forced to deal with them. People will be asking her what's wrong and knowing that her behaviour is out-of-character for her. Teachers who have known her for years might be calling you with concerns. Students who've known her for years might be approaching trusted teachers with concerns about her. She'll be able to avoid this by switching schools where she's the new kid and nobody knows anything about her. JMHO.
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Registered: 07-10-2011
Sun, 07-10-2011 - 10:07pm
Thank you ...that is exactly what I was thinking. I have been very nervous about the public school thing. Thanks so much for the advice!
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Registered: 05-27-1998
Sun, 07-10-2011 - 7:39pm

I would definitely take what you have posted here and tell her doctor. There's something else going on here. Pretending everything is fine and then lying to her friends about her "horribl"e family just isn't normal.