Teens lying about other's parents?!
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Teens lying about other's parents?!
| Tue, 06-26-2007 - 2:36pm |
I’m in a rut. I’ll make this as short as I can. Ok, Donna (my dd’s best friend) was emailing to Jessica (another friend) telling her that I don’t like her (Jessica) for something (a reason that was really stupid and untrue). But then Donna went to Jessica’s house over the weekend and told Jessica and her mom that it was ME emailing her on Donna’s email account!!! So the mom emailed me a nice, but full-of-tension-email yesterday saying that her daughter has now been instructed not to talk to my daughter anymore. I am very disturbed by this. How should I handle? I have talked to the mom – I called her after she emailed me, because I thought it shouldn’t be handled in email. I told her that it wasn’t me, and that I was very upset that Donna would say it was me. I felt like one of the teenagers defending myself! But I got the feeling that the parent is believing this girl. So what do I do next time Donna wants to come over? What about Jessica and the mom?

I'm sorry but "donna told jessica that I don't like her" and then "donna said it was someone else" sounds just like the kind of gossip and backstabbing that teen girls can get caught up in.
What I would say to the other mom is "this is something they have to work out on their own. I can assure you that I don't dislike Jessica, and if I did it wouldn't matter - she's not my friend, she's my daughter's friend". What hits me as I read your post is that we (the adults) graduated from HS a long time ago - don't let yourself be dragged back into that "she said you said I said ...." b.s.
Sue
You have called and told the parent (Jessica's mom?) that it wasn't you. That should be sufficient. I wouldn't give that another thought. So now Jessica has now been instructed by her mom to not talk to your dd anymore? I don't know how your daughter feels about Jessica, but I'm thinking "no loss here". I mean, honestly...if J's mom actually believes that you wrote this email on Donna's screen name, then whatever Jr High problems she's still hanging on to will continue on thru her daughter. KWIM? I wouldn't give them another thought. If the girls want to remain friends, that's fine. If they don't, hey, that's fine too.
As far as Donna goes, my first inclination would be to discourage this friendship your dd has with her. But, if they are bff's, that could be hard, nearly impossible. How close are you to Donna? I ask because I am very close to some of my ds's friends...close enough that I would sit them down and "discuss" what happened. You can let her know that that sort of behavior of dragging your name into their drama is NOT acceptable. And you hope that it never happens again.
Oh, and don't *ever* let her on your computer!! LOL
Why are you bothering with these people? It sounds so immature and stupid.
If the mom actually believed that an adult would use an unrelated child's email to send such an email to another child, it tells you a great deal about the mom. Does the woman have any common sense or brains?
And why would you encourage your daughter to be friends with Donna? Did you call Donna's mother and informed her that her daughter was spreading lies?
Moreover, tell Jessica's mother that you do not appreciate that your word is taken over a teenage girl, without any prrof. Her daughter came come over to your house since,unlike her, you are mature enough that you do not jump to conclusions and that you are a mature adult. However, she owes YOU an apology and until then, you are concerned about the environment your daughter would be subjected to if she went over to her house.
Turn the tables around and take the high road.
Yes but it says volumes about Jessica's mother.