teens out of controle
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teens out of controle
| Wed, 05-17-2006 - 12:26am |
Hi I an new here I am 38 and a mother of 4 girls 4,11,15,17 years of age I was on a pregnancy loss loop once and they help me through alot and here I am now in need of someone to talk to and advice. My spelling is very poor so bear with me.I am at a stage in my life were I find myself wanting to run from being a mom that it was just a big mistake(thats just the way I feel)I love my kids with all my heart and have given my all to them. My kids could tell me any thing no metter what it is and I would be there to lisin they always come first.I am a mom first, Bigsister and a friend to them but this last 2 years my 15 and 17 year old have been taking a tole on me in meny ways. They never lied to me never did things i asked them not to and they were always were they said they would be but thats not the case anymore. Most of the problems are coming from my 15 yr and big sister is going along for the ride. I was so very close to them but the respect and trust are gone.I just started to give them a little space back into the world but cliped there wings again when I found out they had some beer with a boy who took them 4 wheeling. They had so much fun that day I was happy till I smelled the beer a few days later on there cloths and confronted them.I wanted to beat the hell out of them. I yelled and screamed and sent them to there room and the boy that took them 4 wheeling just happend to show up (very bad timing on his part)I grabed a pipe that was on the porch and got right in his face and asked him if he vilated my trust in him and he said no! I said did you or did you not give my under age girls beer after I trusted you with them and he said yes.I did alot of yelling and told him never to come back I was going to smash his truck up but didn't. I can tell most of the time's when my kids lie to me they still don't know how I do it but being so close to them before this age I leared alot about them Being mom,sister and best friend but I am just Mom now and trying to keep them safe and in school. I know they have not tryed any drugs yet I do now my 17 year old had sex 1 time at 16 I new that day and told her so and she kept saying no.I made her read things on aids and other things and she told me I was right after reading everything 3 months later. I have always kept my kids close new were they were at all times and if they strayed I was there but now that there older I am trying to give them space but they are just going down the wrong path every time I give them there wings. They have one friend left because I spyed on the others found out they were a very poor choice of friends and they did drugs and there parents did to.My looks always get what I need to know from parents that do drugs. I have tattoos alot so they always think I must do drugs and offer it so were down to one friend who I am watching very close hes 18 and says there just friends but he is way to playful with my 15yr.they can only hang out with me around I don't want to be a grandmother yet or have anymore childern die in my arms. I am very blessed to have my 4 girls I was told I could not have kids I have 4 living out of 11 pregnancy . You all must think I am nuts but I don't know what to do anymore and I look at my other 2 girls that will be teenagers before I know it and just want to run.I look at the other two and want to put bars on the windows. I just don't know them anymore and the looks they give like there begging me to nock there heads off. They mean the world to me I am nothing with out my kids but I know its going to get worse .There has not been a day gone by that I have not told them how much I love them. 17yr old has always been shy and looks like shes mad at the world the 15yr is out going funny and thinks shes tough.2 little ones are learning from older ones Not good. My 15 yr gave me the finger when I was turning but I acted like I didn't see it because I really felt as if I would have hurt her. They have bad mouths They don't think I know but I do and I took the PC away because they had a myspace with all these guys 19 to 30 and sent photos of them in the front yard and there info told there area they lived in. I through the pc out the window. I took the myspace off 4 times and they new I said the next time they would lose the pc. Its not just them I have to worry about I told them its there little sisters playing in the front yard after they just should are house and the area we lived in for all child molesters to see. Any of you that have kids on the computer its a must you find out were your kids go on it and the myspace and buddy4you is a really bad site for teens.Well I think I said enough.Anyone out ther can ya help me out What should I do????
