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|Mon, 06-17-2013 - 11:08am|
I dropped DS off on Sat. am and he won't be back until Friday--he went to a local college for Boys State. that is a program run by the American legion where the students learn about government, have a mock legislature, etc. It's really his first time away from home on his own since he never went to camp or anything like that. He was kind of irritable so I think he was a little nervous about it, having to room with a stranger, etc. They also have a girls' program at the same time and a good friend of his was going to Girls State, so I drove both of them down and they were talking about hopefull being able to meet up when they had leisure time--most of the day is pretty structured from early breakfast on, but they did say to bring sports equipment or musical instruments if they wanted to, so they do have some fun time. They wanted to be there early so both of them were the 1st ones in the rooms. Oh and they gave a long packing list of things to bring--since it was a dorm, they had to bring sheets & towels and toiletries. So my son packed on his own the night before and when I was asking him about bring things (the most important thing being not to forget his anti-seizure medicine) he accused me of "nagging" him so I stopped--and of course he forgot something. They are supposed to bring one nice outfit and he forgot his sport jacket and tie! He did at least bring his white dress shirt and hopefully his good pants but it was annoying to me. I just bought this whole outfit for this event and his National Honor Society awards night--it's not like he's going to get frequent use out of it. And he brought a tennis raquet but I don't think he brought tennis balls so hopefully if he finds another kid with a raquet, that kid remembered to bring the balls!
So what's ironic is that practially every Sat. night I have plans--and this Sat. that he was going to be gone, I had no plans and only watched a movie at home! I did go out with a friend yesterday for the day but it's not like really any different from usual. I mean, he's almost 18 and drives so I no longer have to be home when he's home. It really would have had a lot more impact when he was younger. I think the big difference will be that I won't have to worry about making dinner or getting home from work at a certain time. I will have to figure out how to eat just by myself--normally if he's at his dad's I won't even cook but I don't want to have frozen dinners or sandwiches for 4 nights in a row.