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I don't know about a break from the board (its good to have someplace to vent) but maybe back off from controlling your ds? You've already taken away the phone so for the sake of consistency leave that as is. But maybe this is the time to institute the suggestions that Rose made, about making him more responsible for himself. I don't know how involved you are with the details of his existence, if you micro-manage him etc. but maybe you should put most of the responsibility on his shoulders?
I was a micro-manager because my kids seemed to need it, but in turn they took that to absolve them of personal responsibility to some degree. Somehow I got the idea to start making ds be responsible for himself when 12th grade started, which was pretty nerve-wracking at times, but if nothing else it was a good exercise in letting go for me.
I tended to be more of a hands off parent than a lot of people here, I know--some of it is probably laziness and being a single working mother, I'm sure.
Hi Conmama - I am a really new poster to this board, so I don't know your hx.
Usually I'm of the mind that kids who aren't responsible don't get more freedom, but *sometimes* that freedom is necessary for their development and your own sanity.