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|Tue, 11-18-2003 - 2:55pm|
One thing I didn't mention is that ds is my stepson. Although I've been his stepmom (and he's lived with us) since he was 6 years old, he does communicate (and visits) his biomom who lives 3 hours away. So obviously there are phone calls between them and we have to allow him talk to her, regardless of any phone restrictions. When he talks to her on the phone, he takes the cordless phone up to his room, and then makes other phone calls following his conversation with her. I don't think it would be right to make him talk to his mom downstairs with everyone listening, so I'm not sure how to keep him from using that phone for other calls (there's no way to track it, since it's the landline).
The other issue is that he often goes over to a friend's house and spends a lot of time there, especially on weekends. We have not grounded him (or should we?) because of this issue, and I know he'll get on his friend's phone and make all the calls he wants to while he's there, thus defeating the whole consequences of his actions.
I'm sorry if I'm being a pain about this issue, it just seems that from previous experience, ds always finds the loopholes in his punishments, and he won't learn from them.