They think we are stupid!!

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Registered: 10-29-2003
They think we are stupid!!
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Fri, 05-25-2007 - 3:05pm

Ok--don't know how to make this short, but I'll try'

16 yr old ds has been wanting to go to a B-Day party---and spend the nite. I nixed spending the night--we are leaving town tomorrow at 6:30 am.

Got REALLY upset---kind of 'too' upset--my radar went into overtime, but I couldn't put my finger on what seemed out of whack....

In the middle of the night, I realized I didn't get PARENT info for this bonfire B-day party. DS16 said he'd give me the info.

I got a text this am w/ the address. Great...told him I still needed a parent name and phone number...he said he'd get it to me.

He texts again, wanting to go out to eat after school BEFORE helping set up the bonfire.

I get a VOICE MAIL MESSAGE on my WORK PHONE W/NO CALLER ID that said something like this "Hi, this is Miss Andrews,Um B's mom.....(muffled noise in background). I was just calling to let you know that there will be chaperones at B's party, so if you have ANY questions, just give me a call back....THANKS" no number .....hmmmm...how many of YOU call another parent and identify yourself as Miss so and so? Don't you usually say This is Shirley Jones, Danny's mom? And that muffled noise in the background SURE sounded like a cafeteria, or some other place where many young people would be.....

So sent DS a text that said "nice try, no party for you"......now he's backtracking ALL OVER himself.........Trying to explain how he JUST FOUND OUT thru the RUMORS that there wouldn't be parents....that he had NO IDEA that B was going to have a girl call me and pretend to be his mom............gosh, it's just a misunderstanding......

Silly kids, do they really think we can't tell the voice of an ADULT from a teenage GIRL??? He and his girlfriend now must find alternate plans.....hmmmm...it MAY just consist of sitting on MY COUCH in MY living room, watching taped DR. PHIL episodes with mom.......sounds like a FUN evening, huh??

Now, the vexing part of all of this is I don't know the boy, or the parents, and apparently the boy's last name differs from the parents.......my son knew the name, but no clue on the spelling.........I feel bad interfering, but then the mom in me feels like these parents should KNOW if there's a party at their house tonight......but unless they are out of town, they'd know anyway...are they advocating no chaperones?

anyway---I may call the sheriff's office and let THEM deal w/ it, since I know an address at least (unless it's fictitious)----I hate this type of moral dilemma......

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Fri, 05-25-2007 - 3:15pm
Well, I guess he thought you wouldn't really check. DD15 went to a "softball sleepover" a few weeks ago, and it took FOREVER to get the girl's full name and address ("Nope, 'Upper West Side of Manhattan' is not specific enough!"). And when DD didn't call me when she got to the house, I *did* call to check. I didn't check on chaperones, and now I'm sorry I didn't. So, kudos to you for checking up and following through!
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Fri, 05-25-2007 - 7:05pm

Good for you, mom!

Pam
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Fri, 05-25-2007 - 9:35pm
Yep....how did we get so far in life being so stupid!
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Sat, 05-26-2007 - 1:14pm

Nice try indeed! Ha! My teenage dd has tried to pull any fast ones on me just yet. But tween son who is a few years younger has a history of "telling tales" through his life and I anticipate a few of them to come!!!

Mom radar is strong isn't it?

The sheriff thing may be good enough. Parents may have given their permission for all you know. But a few rounds by a police cruiser through the neighbourhood throughout the evening may go towards keeping things under control.

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Registered: 05-19-2007
Sat, 05-26-2007 - 6:32pm
i always say that i am so glad i have a teenager to let me know how stupid i am b/c with out her i would never have known...lol..anyways...seems like they should know that we always know...always but lucky for us they never learn that...
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Registered: 05-28-2007
Mon, 05-28-2007 - 8:36am
You did the right thing and I wish there were more parents like you with a backbone. A lot of parents say, oh I trust my son/daughter and don't want to pry. Teenagers are still children in big bodies and they still need our supervision and guidance. Just because they have cell phones and some can drive doesn't mean we can wash our hands and let them raise themselves.
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Registered: 10-29-2003
Tue, 05-29-2007 - 9:44am

Well, I did call the sheriff's office to alert them of a POSSIBLE party, with a POSSIBLE bonfire. The dispatcher just said she'd let the deputies know and they could do what they wanted w/ the info.

My DS did not go to the party (unless he lied to me). He and a friend went to ANOTHER get together where I'm much more confident of parental supervision....I know the mom and upon previous checks and visits, I know they are always around, so unless he lied and went on to the bonfire anyway (which I don't THINK he did), that's the anticlimactic ending of the saga........

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Tue, 05-29-2007 - 10:50am
Hope your ds had fun at the other get-together and I hope he really went there.
Pam