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| Sat, 06-24-2006 - 11:36am |
My almost 17 year old daughter came home drunk last night. The 22 year old girl that she hangs out with BOUGHT her alcohol, when my daughter asked her to. Her boyfriend was also drunk. I called the police, because I didn't want this girl to go on unpunished for what she'd done. She could've told my daughter "No" she's the adult NOT my daughter. Well, in the process, my daughter and her bf got underaged drinking tickets.
My daughter is so very depressed. She says that she has NO ONE. It's the accident. Ever since the accident she just hasn't been the same.
I forbid her to see this girl anymore and she told me that that's fine. All she's going to do is stay in bed all day and night. She said that the only reason why she's alive is because of this friend. :(
I don't know what to do here. I don't want her to hang out with my daughter because she buys her alcohol. She told me that this is the first time that they've drank, but I don't believe her. WHY else would she want to hang out with her?
My worse nightmare has come true. And I had a sneaking suspicion of this too.
What would you do if you were me?
To refresh your memory... My daughter was badly injured when a drunk driver hit a truck which hit the hit that my daughter was standing by, it knocked her to the ground, and the truck landed on her back. SHe was in the hospital for 5 days with two fractures of the pelvis. She has some memory loss, and tested at 12.9 grade level at the beginning of the school year, and is now at a freshmen level. She has nightmares. She's seen a counselor, but I think that she needs someone with a little more experience.
What am I supposed to do?
Staying home will make her even MORE depressed... But letting her go out outside of this house is only going to relay the message that she can do whatever she wants with no ramifications.
I took away her cell phone last night. *sighs*
I have NEVER had this type of experience, not even with my self in my life.
What do I do? Please help me...
I'm a single mom, and her dad just doesn't care what she does. :( I'm alone in this.

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Soo sorry to hear about your dd. What is it with the teen girls today?
But I would recommend finding a counselor that specializes in working with teens. I found a rather young gal - probably in her 30's that is pretty 'hip' and 'cool' and I had my dd go once. She fought me the whole way and I was questioning whether I was doing the right thing. After she met with her she thought it was not so bad. I wish I would have stuck with it. But my dd felt so humiliated that I thought she needed - in her words - a 'psycologists' I was wondering if I was doing more harm than good. But I think it helps sometimes for them to have an outlet - perhaps a trusted professional - that is not there to judge them or 'parent' them. Someone who is unbiased - not a peer and not a parent. I may try it again with my dd b4 she leaves for college. Just be aware - when they turn 18 - it is MUCH harder. (See my post 'Am I wrong?')
I do not know if we as parents will ever find all the right answers. I just pray for strength and wisdom.
Good luck.
I am a very occasional lurker here, but your post struck me because I work in a trauma center and know very well about post-traumatic stress, as well as the symptoms associated with mild head injury.
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