Too hard on dd?

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Registered: 10-24-2006
Too hard on dd?
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Tue, 10-24-2006 - 6:23pm
I've been reading here for a while but now I really need opinions. My dd(15) was meeting up with some friends this afternoon and told me when she got there she'd call me. I waited quite a while after her not calling me and I tried several times over 20 minutes to get ahold of her. My call kept going to voicemail. I was getting worried (paranoid mom) and finally went to where she was meeting up with them. She was there and fine. She said oops I forgot to call but with attitude. I said this isn't working for me and told her she was coming home with me. That was all I said in front of her friends - she flipped out a little there but once we got home she was yelling what I did was bullcrap, etc. I told her this was all about responsibility - if you tell me you're going to do something (like call me) I expect you to do it. Anyhow I wasn't going to take away any other priveleges initially but once she started yelling and such I told her no computer or phone for the night. I'm really torn because she is just a kid and maybe I did over react. What do you think?

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Registered: 03-06-2006
Wed, 10-25-2006 - 11:00am

I'm a bit late with my response but I'll chime in with the others and confirm that I don't think you were especially hard on your DD, either.

In her defense, it IS possible that she didn't hear her phone ring -- at least at first! I typically don't hear mine if I'm at the mall or someplace noisy. But eventually, I hear the little 'beep' indicator that I missed a call. My DD was looking at my phone this past weekend and she said "No wonder you never hear your phone ring! You have it set for 3, I just turned it up to 7 so you'll hear it."

I'm glad she appreciates the circumstances now and I'll bet she calls you when she says she will from here on out!

 

 

 

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Registered: 04-15-2004
Wed, 10-25-2006 - 3:15pm
Hi, I'm coming in late on this one but have to add my 2 cents. I also have a 15dd. If she tells me she's going to call & then doesn't that shows disrespect. Would she "forget" to call one of her friends?? Or would it be ok with her if YOU forgot to call her?? As far as embarrassing her, I have to agree with the others, it's something all mothers do, even our own did. Getting back home & yelling is equally disrespectful, but still, if you're giving her a phone she can use it or loose it. My dd certainly acts the same, but she's seen the consequences (still hasn't completely learned through them though & screws up plenty)

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