Too much gaming!

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Too much gaming!
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Fri, 12-16-2011 - 11:29pm
How do you keep your teenager from playing video games for hours? Mine seems to not be interested in anything and will mope around the house. Any suggestions? We just started a 3 week holiday break and because he got one B (rest are A's) his gaming has been reduced.

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Registered: 02-14-2000
Sat, 12-17-2011 - 2:43am

You don't say how old your teen is. When my boys were younger teens they weren't allowed video time on the weekends and could play two hours a day on the weekend as a general rule (if they had a sleepover we'd give them more time, if they were being punished for something they didn't get any time, occasionally on a week night if it was bad weather and they had no homework they could play for an hour). As they got older they were able to monitor their own time better. I'm suspecting if your ds isn't interested in anythng else and mopes around when he can't play he's somewhat addicted. Assuming he has access to books/friends/other hobbies I would just tell him the video game is off limits for the day and let him figure it out. If he can't find anythng to do you can always enlist his help in cleaning/yard work/runnung errands/etc.

Pam
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Registered: 07-30-1997
Sat, 12-17-2011 - 7:48am
We did base 'screen time' (including TV) on grades (but a B wouldn't have been an issue here). But we also made sure ds was in activities. In middle school he was in scouts and at least one extracurricular after school 1x/week and a class outside of school (usually art in his case; he's an art major now in college), and in HS he swam for 2 years and finished Eagle, and kept with the classes outside of school at first, then had a job the last 2 years of school (10-15 hours/week). He usually got about 1-1.5 hours of screen time per day during the week (again, including tv) and it usually came after he'd done homework (his choice; he just knew his daily limit and had the option of when to use it). It seemed to work. Good luck!

Sue
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Registered: 10-16-1999
Sat, 12-17-2011 - 11:53am

If he's a heavy duty gamer (which, considering his grades, I suspect he isn't) OR if his only two focuses in life are gaming and schoolwork, he may not know HOW to do anything else.

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Registered: 11-28-1999
Sat, 12-17-2011 - 8:55pm

First it kind of disturbs me that because of one B you are reducing the gaming time.

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Registered: 12-16-2003
Sun, 12-18-2011 - 12:09am
A B? You let him keep his gaming system at all? My kids are excellent students, and can play hours of games. As long as he is doing well, has other intrests and friends, why take it away?

Ramona  Mom to 2 great kids and wife to one wonderful hubby since 1990!

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Registered: 05-27-1998
Mon, 12-19-2011 - 8:09am

My son also plays for hours, but I don't really have a problem with this unless he gives us attitude about chores, refuses to do anything else, or lets his grades slide as a result of too much gaming. As much as I dislike it, I do think gaming is one way teens socialize. Mine is always talking to friends (some of whom he knows IRL) thru his headset.

The main thing is balance. If all he does is play video games, that's not good, and I would insist on other activities, including chores. Any refusal to get off the xBox results in loss of gaming privileges in our house.

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Registered: 10-16-1999
Mon, 12-19-2011 - 8:18pm

Now that you mention it... my sons and SIL all constantly talk on their headsets while they're gaming, mostly with people they know IRL or friends of people they know IRL.

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Registered: 08-08-2009
Mon, 12-19-2011 - 9:52pm

For some odd reason we missed this gaming addiction.

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Registered: 12-03-1999
Mon, 12-19-2011 - 10:15pm

<> You say, "GET OFF THE GAME!"

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Registered: 12-03-1999
Mon, 12-19-2011 - 10:26pm
<<"I'd rather have them spending hours in their rooms playing games than out making grandbabies with girl friends.">>>
LOL!!! Was out to lunch with DD#2, and she told me DD#1 was complaining that her bf spent too much time gaming, and not enough doing things with her. DD#2 told her sis, "At least he's in the same room with you, and not out gambling or drinking away his money & chasing some other tail!"

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