Top 3 Parenting Mistakes w/Teens

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Top 3 Parenting Mistakes w/Teens
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Wed, 10-13-2010 - 2:17pm

While scary for parents, the normal individualization process during the tween and teen years doesn’t have to involve power struggles and hard feelings if parents avoid these three common parenting mistakes:

http://moms.today.com/_news/2010/10/13/5283798-top-three-parenting-mistakes-with-tweens-and-teens

Interesting article!

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Wed, 10-13-2010 - 3:48pm

I'm really trying to get out of the habit of "ordering & directing" or as I call it "nagging."

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Registered: 01-21-2008
Wed, 10-13-2010 - 6:31pm

I suppose I agree with what was said- other than I feel the whole decision making "training" for both parent and child needs to be something developed almost from the time the kid learns to say "NO!" Starting with "Would you like syrup OR jelly on your pancake today?"

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Registered: 10-16-1999
Wed, 10-13-2010 - 6:56pm

it didn't seem to express that non-confrontational relationships with our teens begins WAAAY before teen years set in.

I totally agree with this... you have to start young, because by the time they hit 12 or 13, it's really hard to turn things around.

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Registered: 06-27-2006
Thu, 10-14-2010 - 9:51am

I think I making all three mistakes! LOL.

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Thu, 10-14-2010 - 9:54am

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Thu, 10-14-2010 - 10:27am

I'm sure I've done 'em all over the years, but apparently it hasn't totally alienated ds18 as he has fall break this coming weekend and plans to come home for a little of it!

Sue

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Thu, 10-14-2010 - 11:06am

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Registered: 02-12-1998
Thu, 10-14-2010 - 12:18pm

I've done all 3 mistakes...and more.

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Fri, 10-15-2010 - 12:28am

YES! PLEASE COPY-PASTE (or whatever) and make us a NEW UPDATE so we don't hijack this thread- PLEASE!!! This is WONDERFUL to hear- truly exciting and inspiring for so many parents of teens! Honestly I'm NOT YELLING! I'm merely emphasizing my genuine interest and pleasure that it sounds like you may be heading out of the darkest forest here, and hopefully getting your DS involved in something that could turn his whole life around. Just look at the difference YOUR actions have made!

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Registered: 02-12-1998
Fri, 10-15-2010 - 8:55am

Thank YOu KJdill!

I am hesitantly optomisitic.