trusting again

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trusting again
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Sat, 08-20-2011 - 1:35pm

In middle school my oldest daughter experienced betrayal from best friends both in 7th and 8th grade.

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Sat, 08-20-2011 - 5:12pm

Friends come and go--that is the reality of life.

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Sat, 08-20-2011 - 5:38pm
mimiandthree wrote:

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Sat, 08-20-2011 - 6:18pm

Hi, thanks for responding.

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Sat, 08-20-2011 - 6:25pm

ekmama, I'm so glad you responded.

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Sat, 08-20-2011 - 7:04pm

Friendships change a lot during the high school years. My boys are now 21 and 24 and neither of them are more than passing acquaintances with the kids they were best friends with in high school. And it's not at all uncommon for girls to drop their girlfriends for their current 'Mr. Right' in high school (doesn't make it right but it's not uncommon). Sounds like your dd is involved in a lot of things and it's not the end of the world if she doesn't go out every weekend night, too. As for a job - my older ds was in all AP classes, martial arts 4 nights a week, NHS, band 1-3 nights a week depending on the season and still found time for a part time job his senior year at the local Subway. Hopefully your dd will reach out to her other friends and it will be a great year for her! Next year her friends will likely be scattering anyway to college/work/etc. and she'll be with a whole different group of people.

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Sat, 08-20-2011 - 7:23pm

My DD, who just graduated from college, had a group of h.s. girlfriends who were pretty close even after they started college, then they had a falling out the summer after.

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Sat, 08-20-2011 - 8:09pm
Thanks for the comforting words! I'm not looking forward to her going away to college but am looking forward to her meeting new people : )
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Sat, 08-20-2011 - 8:17pm
Two of my daughter's friends from middle school and elementary are boys. I agree, there seems to be less drama with them. And I also agree that there's some anxiety and stress going into this year. None of them know exactly where they want to go to school next year or if they're going to stay close by for school.
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Sat, 08-20-2011 - 8:34pm

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Sat, 08-20-2011 - 10:04pm

I think these types of things are really tough on the shy and sensitive kids.

As others have noted, friends change over time.

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