trusting again

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trusting again
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Sat, 08-20-2011 - 1:35pm

In middle school my oldest daughter experienced betrayal from best friends both in 7th and 8th grade.

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Tue, 08-23-2011 - 11:53am
Thanks for your post. All the responses have been helpful and are putting things in perspective. My daughter is feeling a lot more upbeat the past couple of days. Several friends in other groups have told her they'd like to have lunch with her at school and she's been invited to go to Homecoming with a group of kids that's different than her usual crowd. It looks like she's been reaching out more than I realized. Her sports season started and the team is together 4 hours a day which I'm sure has helped.
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Mon, 08-22-2011 - 9:48pm

Kids are growing and changing all the time. My sons and daughter have only one friend each that has lasted more than one year. This is mostly because of proximity and parents' friendships allowing for more time. With cell phones and texting they now make there own plans and then let me know what they are... well also ask if it's ok...

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Sun, 08-21-2011 - 6:31pm

Did she ever have time to sleep in there?

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Sun, 08-21-2011 - 10:59am

kimmybabe, I love that your daughter gave "The Butchman" a chance even though he was quirky.

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Sat, 08-20-2011 - 10:04pm

I think these types of things are really tough on the shy and sensitive kids.

As others have noted, friends change over time.

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Sat, 08-20-2011 - 8:34pm

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Sat, 08-20-2011 - 8:17pm
Two of my daughter's friends from middle school and elementary are boys. I agree, there seems to be less drama with them. And I also agree that there's some anxiety and stress going into this year. None of them know exactly where they want to go to school next year or if they're going to stay close by for school.
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Sat, 08-20-2011 - 8:09pm
Thanks for the comforting words! I'm not looking forward to her going away to college but am looking forward to her meeting new people : )
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Sat, 08-20-2011 - 7:23pm

My DD, who just graduated from college, had a group of h.s. girlfriends who were pretty close even after they started college, then they had a falling out the summer after.

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Sat, 08-20-2011 - 7:04pm

Friendships change a lot during the high school years. My boys are now 21 and 24 and neither of them are more than passing acquaintances with the kids they were best friends with in high school. And it's not at all uncommon for girls to drop their girlfriends for their current 'Mr. Right' in high school (doesn't make it right but it's not uncommon). Sounds like your dd is involved in a lot of things and it's not the end of the world if she doesn't go out every weekend night, too. As for a job - my older ds was in all AP classes, martial arts 4 nights a week, NHS, band 1-3 nights a week depending on the season and still found time for a part time job his senior year at the local Subway. Hopefully your dd will reach out to her other friends and it will be a great year for her! Next year her friends will likely be scattering anyway to college/work/etc. and she'll be with a whole different group of people.

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