Trying not to get involved but.....

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Trying not to get involved but.....
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Mon, 02-04-2008 - 11:05am

Last week Mike was locked in the room talking with his girlfriend on his cell phone.

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Mon, 02-04-2008 - 11:26am
Sadly this is pretty normal for teen relationships and while these types of relationships are "learning" experiences for teens, some teens may just never know why their feelings change or "whats wrong".



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Mon, 02-04-2008 - 11:44am

Hi, I don't know if I really have advice but am in a similar situation with my DD17.


She has been "going out" with her BF18 for over 2 years. Last year they had ups and downs but this year things seemed fine. We my dh and I like this boy, he's a good student, doesn't drink or smoke and is polite.

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Mon, 02-04-2008 - 12:43pm

Sounds like she is ready to move on to someone else

"best friend in the world" doesn't jive with the romantic expectations of girls this age

I would encourage him to wait until the last possible minute to decide on the Valentine Gift. A lot can happen in 10 days!

When I didn't feel 'that way' about a guy, all I ever shared was "the spark isnt there'.

I didnt tell the guy who I swear kissed with his teeth that he was a lousy kisser nor did I tell the one who drove like a banshee that I was afraid to drive anywhere with him. I guess if I was madly heads over heels in love, I might have taken on changing those things but not in a beginning relationship(arent these kiddos young? Im not sure from your profile)

I think she is acting 'normal'-not interested anymore and not wanting to hurt him

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Mon, 02-04-2008 - 12:50pm
Chances are Mike didn't do anything wrong.
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Mon, 02-04-2008 - 1:54pm

Teen romances are soo hard.

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Mon, 02-04-2008 - 9:43pm
((HUGS))
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Mon, 02-04-2008 - 10:01pm

Everyones said how tough teen romances are.

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Mon, 02-11-2008 - 12:32am

Sorry to say, but your son is lucky he got as much information as he did. Most teens don't deal well with this type of conversation, so they avoid it. My daughter had a short "relationship" last summer where the guy broke up with her via IM. She was OK about it, she was thinking maybe she didn't like him after all, but really! And I guess that's the norm now.


If your son keeps pressing for more of an explanation, he may wind up more hurt than informed, so let him handle it. When your kid is hurting, you want so much to do something to help. But in this situation, you can't. Keep encouraging him to get back to his life, watch for signs that he isn't. Learning how to get over a break-up is a really important life skill too.

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Tue, 02-12-2008 - 12:06pm
But he's getting 2 messages and so confused.
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Tue, 02-12-2008 - 1:03pm
She did say that she thought of him as a very good friend, so texting on hours on end doesn't sound like mixed signals UNLESS they are intimate and they are combined with intimacies when they are together.



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