tutors/parental help?
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tutors/parental help?
| Sat, 09-15-2007 - 11:25pm |
Almost alll of the kids in my dds old school were either tutored or had a parent who oversaw their homework.
| Sat, 09-15-2007 - 11:25pm |
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You seem to be suggesting there is a difference between a child asking a parent for help vs them going to a teacher for help. The only reason I can see for distinguishing between the two is IF the parent is not capable of helping the child. For instance, I am good thru Algebra I and II with my kids, but once they get to
Can't he just tell the teacher he doesn't understand something? My kids would be very upset with me if they couldn't do something and they knew I could help them. Not to mention my DD is kind of a perfectionist and would probably not sleep if her homework wasn't finished.
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Policy is that there is a day set for each teacher
I think that if your 15 yo has some kind of learning disability then maybe she needs a tutor.
I haven't read many of the other posts as I'm a bit late responding, but I am very uninvolved with either childs' homework anymore.
I worked as a professional tutor for a short time. I understand that the culture of some schools is such that most kids have tutors and in other schools this is the exception rather than the rule. My dd17 goes to a public school and is in the honors track. I have not been involved in her homework, really since middle school. She is a very responsible child and the only parameters she had was that she wasn't allowed to go out with friends or watch tv until homework was finished. I never actually looked at her homework to verify if it was done, but would simply ask her or remind her that those were the rules. I did not regularly ask her if she had homework b/c I knew that she had homework everyday. I did not check to see that she was doing homework b/c I felt that it was her responsibility to do get it done and face the consequences of not doing it. If her grades began to slip, and they did at times, then she lost privileges like going out or curfew times, etc. until the grades were brought back up. I felt that it was important to prepare her for college and the adult world of self-discipline and accountability. Of course, she will still ask me questions on tough problems or to edit papers and I will absolutely help her with those. If I don't know the answer, I will help her to find the answer. She will also stay after school to ask the teacher for extra help. Again, I think the fine line here is the child's self-motivation in seeking assistance, rather than the adult being the one overlooking. To me, this was and is an important distinction.
So, the direct answer, I suppose would be: I help with homework only when asked.
I have to disagree a little w/ your idea of not helping your son, but just giving him a vague statement of something needs to be changed, but I won't tell you why.
Since I have been a lawyer for 25 yrs now, it's very rare that I need help writing any court papers.
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