UNBELIEVABLE

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UNBELIEVABLE
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Fri, 08-27-2010 - 9:02pm
Well, after all the talk about pregger girls, and 'the talk', turns out that MY DD is preggers! Oy vey. I'm shocked to say the least. We just found out 2 days ago, but everybody else (her, bf, bfs fam, the school..) has know for weeks.
I took her to the clinic and she is 7 1/2 weeks along. Can't believe it. DH wants to rip bfs head off, but has refrained. LOL. It's getting easier, but I'm still sad and scared for her. Thanks for 'listening'
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Registered: 03-09-2009
In reply to: krilerby
Fri, 08-27-2010 - 10:22pm
Wow! (((Hugs))) No words of advice, but stay strong.
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Registered: 04-30-2000
In reply to: krilerby
Fri, 08-27-2010 - 10:56pm
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Registered: 01-21-2008
In reply to: krilerby
Fri, 08-27-2010 - 11:15pm

Awww, crummm, sort of. It's a shame a "moment" will make her life difficult so young. Has she been with the bf for very long? Is she mostly a pretty level headed girl? I hope she has a healthy pregnancy. I WOULD be miffed to hear I was "the last to know" though!


Prayers to you all, hang in there GRANDMA!

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Registered: 04-17-2010
In reply to: krilerby
Fri, 08-27-2010 - 11:44pm
I would be upset if I was last to know. As for your husband being mad at the BF, remember it takes two; I would be mad at both of them. There's not much anyone can do now except for being there and being supportive. Once the shock wears off, all of you DD, BF, and both sets of parents should sit down talk-everyones life is about to change and being in the same mindset may make things go smoother.
Wish you and your family the best in the situation.
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Registered: 10-16-1999
In reply to: krilerby
Sat, 08-28-2010 - 10:11am

Wow! I probably wouldn't be happy to be the last to know either, but I know *my* daughter would really hesitate to tell me news like this because she'd be afraid of disappointing me.

As for ripping the b/f's head off.... I'd tend to doubt that your DD was an unwilling participant in the conception. ;)

Hang in there grandma - this isn't a good thing, but it's not the worst that could happen either.

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Registered: 03-20-2003
In reply to: krilerby
Sat, 08-28-2010 - 10:48am

Sending many gentle hugs your way. It was just over a year ago that we found out our ds's gf was pregnant so I may know a bit of some of what you are feeling. I was devastated at first. I felt like all the hopes and dreams I'd had for him were dashed. I did come around but it took me a LONG time. I went through the motions but there was no excitement what so ever until within a few weeks of Hailey's birth.

I'll just throw this out there (no flaming please) but your dd and her bf do have options. She doesn't necessarily have to have the baby and raise it. And if she's in high school that likely means you will be doing a lot of the raising. We tried to talk to Justin and Danielle about those options but at the time they didn't want to hear about it. Later in the pregnancy I know Justin was starting to question what they were getting into and was realizing that he was in no way ready to support a family. He tried to broach the subject of adoption to Danielle at that point but that pretty much sent her over the edge and he backed off.

Best of luck to you and your family as you figure out what the xt steps are.



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Registered: 06-27-2006
In reply to: krilerby
Sat, 08-28-2010 - 11:01am
Thanks so much.
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Registered: 11-28-1999
In reply to: krilerby
Sat, 08-28-2010 - 12:50pm
I'm sending you sympathy--it must be so shocking and you don't know what to do. Hey, many people could be in your DD's situation--she was just unlucky.
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Registered: 04-30-2000
In reply to: krilerby
Sat, 08-28-2010 - 1:29pm

I would hope no one would flame you for mentioning that adoption IS a valid, and loving option.

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Registered: 04-04-2005
In reply to: krilerby
Sun, 08-29-2010 - 5:19am
oh my. i would be shocked.
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