Unruly daughter and I'm at my wit's end

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Unruly daughter and I'm at my wit's end
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Sat, 02-19-2011 - 12:42am

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Registered: 04-25-2006

Okay I'm just a SM without any kids of my own. My SD15 and SS13 live with us full time. They do not see their BM at all. With that being said....as of tonight I really feel as if I am DONE with SD15. According to her, her and I don't get along. WTF was Monday night all about when I took her to the movies and treated her out to eat at her favorite burger joint!?! Her and I DON'T get along when she is NOT getting her way. She runs her mouth and talks out of her ass. I've had it! If your wondering where daddy dearest is at right now....he's in another country taking care of his "boat business" ugh! I can only imagine how Difficult it is to be a single mother with teenaged daughters. I was feeling that way about being a single parent before reading your post. You know with my FH being away and me being home alone with skids. Okay now....... It BLOWS my mind to read post like these were teenagers are treating their parents this way. If I EVER treated my mom the way your daughter treats you my mom would have BEAT THE CRAP out of me. Now I believe that if your daughter is not bipolar she is the biggest manipulator in the world! And the meanest, most selfish, uncaring brat ever! How dare she treat you that way. And WHY are YOU allowing this behavior!?! You still gave in to her! You see that is what my SD15 is used to. Us giving in to her just to make her happy. I think your DD15 has learned thAt In order for her to get what she wants she HAS to throw a tantrum. Why are you allowing this?

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Registered: 11-28-1999

I have an almost 22 yr old DD & a 15 yr old DS and to me this does not sound like normal teenage behavior.

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Registered: 01-21-2008

I hate to say this sounds familiar...but I didn't tolerate the crap. Call the police EVERY time she comes unglued, document, document, document! If you say no and she leaves the house- report it. The ONE time my DD went so far as to "get in my face" I slammed her and called the police. The moment she pulled the "I'm gonna kill myself" I called 911 and had her removed to an adolecent lockdown psych facility. I also refused to allow her back in my home unless she successfully completed the program set before her. She CHOSE not to and has never lived with me again. My reason for not allowing her back home? Yes, a younger child that could be in harms way should DD CHOOSE to become violent.

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Registered: 03-27-2005

I don't have a daughter so the dynamic may be different, but I do have a 17 year old

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Registered: 10-16-1999

I agree with so much of what you've said Stacy, but especially this:

I would also stop using

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Registered: 04-16-2009

I suspect there is more to this situation, perhaps more mom that you are aware of.

When did the behavior problems start with your middle daughter? You stated that the behavior has degenerating in the last year.

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Registered: 11-21-2004

to the OP, heed all this advice, your DD is out of control.

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Registered: 08-26-2007

I don't have any real words of wisdom...wish I did. Going through something similiar with my 17 yr old son. I have two kids. Oldest is almost 22 and although she was a pretty typical teen, she was always cooperative,

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Registered: 07-24-1997

I'm not sure that "what would you do?" is the right question, as we're all in different situations.

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Registered: 04-23-2008

I am a rather new poster, and definitely new to this board. I am not a parent, but my boyfriend's family is going through something very similar currently. They have a 13 year old who either gets angry and violent or is completely apathetic, and a sweet six year old who is very scared. They know that that kind of environment is not safe for him. They've called the cops repeatedly and she got put in Juvie for bringing weed to school. Finally, they got a recommendation for an in-patient psychiatric program in which the doctors will communicate fully with the parents about issues and how to solve them. I highly suggest continuing counseling, and seeing if social services would be willing to get your daughter into an inpatient psychiatric facility where she can be monitored full time, if calling the police when she becomes violent doesn't work. It's just my two cents, but it's already working out well for them. The unit does not

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