update

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Registered: 03-09-2006
update
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Mon, 05-15-2006 - 3:50pm

Well had another talk with dd about b/f. We have told her that no hanging out with b/f during the week after school etc. no matter what. She went out with b/f and his parents yesterday. She even came home early.....lol We told her to be home before 10pm, she came home at 7pm. I was very surprised.
Well Saturday morning, dd came to me and asked me if she cam go on the pill. She said to me that she's not having sex. She says that her grandmother suggested it a little while ago for her acne. I said alright, but please tell me the truth if you are sexually active, she said no. I don't know for sure if its the truth or not. I said ok that I'd take her to the doctor. But our doctor is on holidays until the 23rd of this month. I'm thinking that mabe dd and b/f have talked about this sex thing and mabe he talked to her about going on the pill. Its just going through my mind. Not sure if thats real or not, but I'm thinking that way.
Oh this is scary!! LOL

I also have a 13 yr old ds. He's been a little devil ever since he started walking. He's finally leveled out a little. Guess what, he's so much more reliable etc. than dd is right now.....lol He does like his girls(friends) he says that he doesn't want a girlfriend. He said that girls just get too obsessed.....lol Girls really seem to like him ever since he has been in the 1st grade. Quite a few girls call for him to talk. Never any boys. I think its kinda cute.

Anyway enough venting today....lol

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Registered: 04-25-2006
In reply to: puglover71
Mon, 05-15-2006 - 5:33pm
I hope DD is very clear on the fact that while the pill can prevent pregnancy it cannot prevent an std. i'd be more concerned about talking to her about condoms!
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Registered: 05-29-2003
In reply to: puglover71
Mon, 05-15-2006 - 7:20pm
Has your daughter been seen by a dermatologist? Has she been prescribed other acne medications?
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Registered: 10-17-2005
In reply to: puglover71
Tue, 05-16-2006 - 4:06pm

Wow! Unless her grandmother is very progressive I can't imagine her suggesting bc to your DD. My mother is only 60 and is pretty in touch with the way of the world today, but I cannot fathom her giving that advice to my 13yo DD--especially without talking to me about it first. I would expect her to suggest a dermatologist (like someone else posted) or other treatment LONG before she'd come up with birth control as an option.

I'm afraid I'd see it as a cover story. Ask lots of questions of your DD and see what's really going on.

I agree with the other poster, too--condoms, condoms, condoms. Yeah for your DD asking for bc, boo if she's not being honest about why she wants it, and echo to you--preach condoms above everything else.

Hugs and good luck,
Dani