Update on Carpooling and Evil Girls

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Registered: 10-21-2005
Update on Carpooling and Evil Girls
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Wed, 02-08-2006 - 8:59am

For all the wonderful posters who helped me when I was struggling with an ugly carpool situation, here's an update:

I've been driving my dd to and from school (36 mile round trip) since the beginning of the year. I saw a change in her immediately. She wakes up happy - sings all the way there and all the way home. We have peace again.

About two weeks ago when I picked her up, she mentioned that C seemed sad at school (dd and C got along fine when A wasn't around) and that A and M were ignoring C. Last week she and C had a chance to talk and, apparently (sp?) A has now launched into the full shun mode with C. Dd told C that she would be there for her if she ever needed to talk because she understood how she felt. C then told dd that she knows she was a "follower" for a long time and apologized for how she treated dd.

WOW. I'm so proud of both girls.

C's mom called me this week and asked if I would be willing to drive C to school Weds (today) because A was shadowing at another school. She said she'd pick the girls up. Of course I said yes. She was very understanding when I backed out and she even told me she is considering having C ride the bus because of how C is being treated.

Had I not pulled out of the carpool, I think A would have continued to be C's buddy ... if for no other reason than to continue bullying my dd. She has shown her true colors and, while my heart goes out to C for her pain, she is far better off. She has started making friends at school (prior to this she and A and M were a threesome and did not socialize much with the other girls). I've always liked C and felt there was hope for her. A and M are both transferring to another school next year.

Ding Dong the witch is dead!

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Wed, 02-08-2006 - 9:44am
Great news! I'm so happy things have turned around for your dd and that C had an epiphany, albeit through the tortures of A. It's a shame that some girls spend so much time and energy being catty when they could all pool thier resources and form a happy little group of friends to lean on instead. Glad you opted out that situation!
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Registered: 12-22-2003
Wed, 02-08-2006 - 10:09am

Isn't it funny how things work out like that? DD's 8th grade 'friend' mess took a similar turn after a few weeks and all the girls ended up hating each other when it was all said and done.

I like h&r's comment about how much better it would be if the girls just all stuck together and had each other to lean on.

Your DD sounds like an amazing person! Ready to forget, forgive and be C's friend again. She must have an awesome role model for a mother!

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Registered: 10-21-2005
Wed, 02-08-2006 - 11:44am
Aww - that's sweet! She's a good kid, but she has her momens just like they all do! I think it was pretty big of C to apologize and to admit do being a follower. That's hard at their age.
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Registered: 04-02-2003
Wed, 02-08-2006 - 12:28pm
i am glad to hear. your dd is QUITE a lady! and it sounds like C is quite the lady too.
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Wed, 02-08-2006 - 1:11pm

glad to hear that things are working out for the best.