Validictorian speech - recent death

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Registered: 05-31-2003
Validictorian speech - recent death
Sat, 05-31-2003 - 11:04pm
My daughter has to write a validictorian graduating High School speech this next week and yet we are dealing with a recent drowning of one of her junior friends. Anyone have a poem or words of wisdom. She doesn't feel like writing anything.

Please help!

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Registered: 03-14-2003
Sun, 06-01-2003 - 1:59pm
I'm sorry to hear about your daughter's friend's untimely passing. It must be extremely difficult for her right now.

I don't have a poem, however, I do have something by Ecclesiates that is probably my favorite and could be applied to life. Rather intense, but speaks volumes~

Generations come and go but it makes no difference. The sun rises and sets and hurries around to rise again. The wind blows south and north, here and there, twisting back and forth, getting nowhere. The rivers run into the sea, but the sea is never full and the water returns again to the rivers and flows again to the sea.

Everything is unutterably weary and tiresome, no matter how much we see, we are never satisfied; no matter how much we hear, we are not content. So I saw that there is nothing better for men than that they should be happy in their work, for that is what they are here for and no one can bring them back to life to enjoy what will be in the future, so let them enjoy it now.


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Registered: 03-26-2003
Sun, 06-01-2003 - 2:28pm
I am so sorry for your daughters loss and sadness. I can completely understand that she is having a hard time writing a inspirational speech when you are feeling uninspired. There is a great speech at the following site ( Perhaps she can use portions of it for her own speech. Congratulations to her for being chosen as her class valedictorian.


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Registered: 03-26-2003
Sun, 06-01-2003 - 2:39pm
There is also a great site There are hundreds of speeches to see from graduates all over the country.


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Registered: 05-19-2003
Sun, 06-01-2003 - 4:03pm
I do know of a poem she could read however it will take me a while to find it. I need to email my sister in law in Australia.

She read it at her mother's funeral in April and it was just lovely.

Please check the board again tomorrow.


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Registered: 03-26-2003
Mon, 06-02-2003 - 12:58am
Hmm ... twoki's post gave me the idea below. But before I write it, I'd like to offer your dd and all whose lives were touched by the tragic death of a daughter, friend, classmate ...

Also from Ecclesiastes ...

There is a time for everything and a season for every activity under the heaven:

a time to be born and a time to die,

a time to plant and a time to uproot,

a time to kill and a time to heal,

a time to tear down and a time to build,

a time to weep and a time to laugh,

a time to mourn and a time to dance,

a time to scatter stones and a time to gather them,

a time to embrace and a time to refrain,

a time to search and a time to give up,

a time to keep and a time to throw away,

a time to tear and a time to mend,

a time to be silent and a time to speak,

a time to love and a time to hate,

a time for war and a time for peace ...

Then perhaps your dd could write something about the future as being what the time is *now* in preparation of, and how the friend who died would have them look forward as well?

This is no doubt something very difficult to write. Encourage her to write completely from her heart, help her to see how life blends both sadness and joy; pain and happiness, and how we grow from each experience if we learn how to not allow sorrow to engulf us and twist our views of life. That we always have choices, even if it's a choice of how to *choose* to respond to whatever life throws in our paths. Something written from the heart, once she starts, will flow with a kind of truth her peers will relate to.

Good luck to her. I'd like to read what she does write if possible. Hug her hard. HUGS to all of you.

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Registered: 03-14-2003
Mon, 06-02-2003 - 7:30am
Ahh, I like that one too! ;-)
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Registered: 05-19-2003
Mon, 06-02-2003 - 10:02pm
As promised, the poem my sil read at her mother's funeral. I hope it might help your daughter with her speech.

God looked around his Garden and found an empty place.

He then looked down upon his earth and saw your loving face.

He put his arms around you and lifted you to rest.

His Garden must be beautiful, he always takes the best.

He knew that you were suffering, he knew you were in pain,

and knew that you would never get well on earth again.

He saw your path was difficult, he closed your tired eyes,

he whispered to you "Peace be Thine" and gave your wings to fly.

When we saw you sleeping so calm and free of pain,

we could not wish you back to earth to suffer once again.

You've left us precious memories, your love will be our guide,

you live on through your children, you're always by our side.

It broke our hearts to lose you, but you did not go alone.

For part of us went with you on the day God called you home.

There is also a wonderful speech in "Four Weddings and a Funeral". It's the eulogy that the partner of the man who died gave. I don't recall the writer of the poem but it was so moving.

This is sweet too.

From a New Angel in Heaven

Weep not for me now that I have passed

Remember the laughter, the affection, the joy, not just the tears

Cherish the memories, our hopes and dreams

Hold fast to the love that we shared

Be happy with the time we spent together and being anew

For I am not really gone

I am closer than ever before

As the morning sun rises and throughout the busy day, I am with you

Until the setting sun disappears on the horizon and we watch the day turn

into night, I am here

You may feel a faint breeze stir around your heard while you rest as I

gently kiss your forehead, "Good night"

The stars that shine so brightly in my heavenly sky help me watch over you

and keep you from harm

I am the wind in the trees and the song of a bird

I am moonbeams in a midnight sky and a glorious rainbow after the storm

I am morning dew and freshly fallen snow

I am a butterfly flying overhead and a kitten happily at play

I am a smile on a strangers face

A gentle touch

A warm embrace

Listen to the wind for my message of love

Watch the sun rise and set in the sky with me

Feel my essence encircle you with warm memories

Open you heart to know I am not gone

Reach deep into your will find me

I am here

Have no fear

I am with you.