Is watching TV in BoyFriends Bedroom OK?

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Registered: 09-13-2006
Is watching TV in BoyFriends Bedroom OK?
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Fri, 11-10-2006 - 2:28am
Okay ladies, I need your opinion on this. My DD - 14 yrs old - has been dating a nice 15 year old boy for a few months. Boyfriend is very comfortable hugging, kissing, cuddling up with my daughter infront of anyone who is looking. Now she told me that when she goes over to his house, his parents allow them to lay across his bed in his bedroom and watch TV. The door is closed. I'm not comfortable with this.... and told DD. She says all is innocent and that the rest of his family watches TV downstairs. It seems to met like this will invite trouble. Am I being overly paranoid? What would you do?

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Registered: 07-27-2006
Fri, 11-10-2006 - 6:43pm
wow i hate to blow up your daughter's spot but haha it's really obvious. there is no way she's in there just sitting and watching tv. i'm 15 and when my boyfriend comes over and we're "watching tv" it basically means we're making out with the tv on.
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Registered: 03-25-2003
Fri, 11-10-2006 - 9:26pm
uhh...me and my now husband called it "listening to records". When we were dating when he was 17 and I was 20 we'd slip into my bedroom and tell my mom that we wanted to listen to records. Well we WOULD turn the record player on, but that is about where the listening stopped ;-) I definitely don't think this is a situation a 14 year old needs to be in.
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Fri, 11-10-2006 - 10:18pm

14dd?? 15bf?? No, not okay.

When my dd was 18 she and her bf would watch tv in her room, with the door open. We live in a one level ranch house and were constantly moving around so there was no way anything could happen without us knowing about it! But at your dd's age, there is no way they'd be allowed out of the living room.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Fri, 11-10-2006 - 10:20pm
I agree, I think your dd is SCREAMING for you to put a halt to this...call the boy's mom.
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Registered: 07-21-2006
Sat, 11-11-2006 - 6:20am
Of course they want to be alone and I'm sure no one wants to be in the same room if they are always kissing. I for one couldn't stand it. My daughter was allowed to have the boyfriend in her room to watch tv. But, the rule was, lights on and door open. It's just not right otherwise. They may not see it that way and probably nothing serious is going on but since he seems so overly affectionate and she is only 14....DOOR OPEN.

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