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Weenie Boy
| Fri, 09-01-2006 - 12:45am |
I haven’t posted here for a while. Some of you may recall some of my previous rants about the adventures of weenie boy – a slime sucking 17 yr old “ladies man” who knows just what to do and say to get into the pants of inexperienced and romance seeking young girls.
DD had broken it off with WB for a while, but he just kept-a-callin saying the same old lines. She went out with him again for a while, then found out he had given “make out lessons” to a girlfriend acquaintance of hers which turned into sex. DD was once again devastated thinking he had really changed this time.
“Make out lessons”??? Isn’t that a bit “middle school” for a 17 yr old.? Well… once again he got what he wanted. ‘Ol daddio is seething with rage. I would like to bury this kid where he stands for playing with my DD’s head like this, but I know I need to stay out of it. I’m upset with her for not seeing the obvious right in front of her face. But such is the result so common with inexperienced romance. Now our relationship has been strained. I’m not about to give her the “what we’re you thinking” lecture. She’s in enough pain. But she’s embarrassed and not saying much to me lately.
She has started seeing a counselor to help see if she can sort this out. I feel so bad for her. The messages kids get today about sex must be confusing as hell. Right now she feels there are two groups of girls:
1. Those that have boyfriends.
2. Those that refuse to have sex.
She would like a relationship with a boy, but is not yet willing to pay the obligatory price.
My god, it must be hard to be 16 these days….
Anyway, I need help. What do I do? What do I say?
DD had broken it off with WB for a while, but he just kept-a-callin saying the same old lines. She went out with him again for a while, then found out he had given “make out lessons” to a girlfriend acquaintance of hers which turned into sex. DD was once again devastated thinking he had really changed this time.
“Make out lessons”??? Isn’t that a bit “middle school” for a 17 yr old.? Well… once again he got what he wanted. ‘Ol daddio is seething with rage. I would like to bury this kid where he stands for playing with my DD’s head like this, but I know I need to stay out of it. I’m upset with her for not seeing the obvious right in front of her face. But such is the result so common with inexperienced romance. Now our relationship has been strained. I’m not about to give her the “what we’re you thinking” lecture. She’s in enough pain. But she’s embarrassed and not saying much to me lately.
She has started seeing a counselor to help see if she can sort this out. I feel so bad for her. The messages kids get today about sex must be confusing as hell. Right now she feels there are two groups of girls:
1. Those that have boyfriends.
2. Those that refuse to have sex.
She would like a relationship with a boy, but is not yet willing to pay the obligatory price.
My god, it must be hard to be 16 these days….
Anyway, I need help. What do I do? What do I say?

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ew he sounds like a complete jerk. i'm 15 and i know a lot of boys like that and unfortunately i also know a lot of girls fall for their bs. i've also been in that situation before, manipulated by guys like that.
i really don't know what to tell you to tell her. but as a girl who's close in age to your daughter, sometimes it DOES seem that the girls who have boyfriends are the ones who have sex with them. but whether a couple is having sex or not, a boy will only respect a girl once the girl can respect herself.
i made the mistake of losing my virginity to a guy i thought cared about me, only to be pretty much abandoned by him a little while later. now i'm with someone who isn't the perfect boyfriend in the least but he really does care about me. he really wants to have sex and so do i... but ya i'm saving that until i'm 110% ready and he understands that and doesn't push it.
i don't know if this helped at all but i can understand how your daughter's feeling. eventually she'll find someone who is mature enough to respect her and not jerk her around like he is.
Edited 9/1/2006 4:57 am ET by badfishy
I guess every parent of a teenage girl lives this parallel life!!
I am in the beginning stages with my dd14 of this very scenario. I'm just learning the "bite your tongue" trick and our relationship is already strained a month into her being with wb#2. My dd KNOWS he is playing with her head (her words to me exactly!) but the game continues....
From what I have learned here, apparently the best thing to do is just be there for her when she falls. I'm hating this with a passion. Dd's wb#2 actually came and sat with me the other day to watch here cheer and I literally had bite marks on my tongue!!!! I soooooo badly wanted to say some things....that had to be the hardest 2 hours of my life!
Anyway, she has her counselor to sort things out in her mind. She will come to you when she needs to - just hug her and tell her you love her, I'm sure that's what she needs to most from you.
Good luck!
Just hug her, tell her you love and make her favorite food - it'll mean so much if daddie cooked for her. You show her everday how a man should treat those he loves. She's learning by watching you.
There's nothing you can say at the moment except that you love her and you're there if she needs you. You are so right that speaking your mind about weenie boy will only make it worse for her. So if you must, go find a tree and tell that tree all about the evils of weenie boy (and hope someone doesn't see you and have you locked up for ranting and raving to a tree).
Good Luck!
Thank you so freaken' much for making me laugh!!!
Atleast the tree won't roll it's eyes....
Best darn piece of advice I have ever read in dealing with a teen daughter!!!
Hey daddio,
Sorry to hear that WB is still around and causing grief, but also sorry that your DD is hurting! She is very lucky to have you for support. I agree with the others that just being supportive and 'there' for her is about the best you can do right now, or maybe offer to take her or her and a friend off on a day trip of sorts. You and your DD seem to share a lot of the same interests in outdoors-y activities, so maybe something like that? Just to get her out and away from home?
On a recent horse camping trip, my DD tried fly fishing and loved it, much to everyone's suprise. She even put on those gator-overall things, fins, got herself into a float and spent quite a long time on the lake. Didn't catch anything that day, but a day or so later, she was successful in catching two little trout in a nearby river. Something like that might be a good 'escape' and she might feel more inclined to talk with you then.
Just a thought ...
Julie
I would have killed for a dad like you.
In 1979, at 17, my boyfriend was murdered, and I never got so much as a word out of my father. You're awesome, just even being here and trying to do the best for your DD. (no, I don't need sympathy answers, just wanted daddio to know that I think his daughter is a very very lucky girl)
Good luck,
zz
Unfortunately Pam, I think that the "under 20" crowd, and especially the "under 18" crowd have a different idea of what "2 adults in a committed relationship" means these days than we do/did.
Good point, Rose. Gotta make sure I define for them what I mean by a "committed relationship".
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