well he's definetly having sex!
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| Sat, 06-09-2007 - 1:26pm |
I wrote about my 17 yr old son yesterday and after confronting him he's admitted it. We had a 30 minute talk or so and I listed all the obvious reasons that he and she should not be doing this, very calmly I might add and he said that basically he disgreed because they are using two forms of bcontrol and he did not see the problem.
As a parent I was completely disgusted. I mean really what is there I can do. I acted adult and remained calm, but honestly I felt like I was over a barrell on this. About all I can do is not let me house be a place they can do this, and as for the car, well, I suppose I could take it away, but that seem extreme...he does pay us monthly to use it...
So in the end I told him thanks for being honest, but that he would notice that I was not all the excited about him, because I felt what they were doing was just plain stupid and wrong, and that further, my affection for her was gone as well. And today I've been very cold to him, and honestly, I know some of you might think that's not right, but I really don't feel like being any other way. When you have to accept that your under 18 yr old is doing something you don't approve of, who in their right mind could go about acting as though everything were just fine.
Oh and by the way, I told him I had 4 kids and was not interested in raising any more at the moment so if their little plan goes awry, they are on their own.
Feel free to comment, I'm just disgusted.

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I have posted my opinions just like everyone else has.
People post for advice, I can give advice from someone who was teen not to long ago and who knows people that are still a teens. I know what is is like to be a teen in this generation and also to be able to give advice without having emotional attachment because I have a child. I also went through not many years ago what many people on this board are posting about and I know how I felt about things.
I have seen other people post on this board that are not parents, do you ask them why they are here? Do you ask parents why they post here when they have children that are 20 or older? They are not parents of teens.
I am allowed to have an opinion and I am allowed to post. If you do not like what I post there is an ignore feature or you can report my posts to Ivillage if you feel I have broken the rules.
However, if there is general board consensus that I am not wanted here and I am not helpful, I will leave.
So, to directly answer your question, no, I am not looking for a debate.
"I have seen other people post on this board that are not parents, do you ask them why they are here?:
No, I have not been here too long so I hadn't noticed anyone before.
"Do you ask parents why they post here when they have children that are 20 or older?"
No, They have had the experience of parenting teens, so their thought are valuable to me at least.
"I am allowed to have an opinion and I am allowed to post."
You certainly are, I just was asking what your motivation was?! You have answered that I guess. As I said in the beginning, I didn't mean to be impolite.
I am not an old lady, nor do I feel that it was soooooooo long ago that I don't remember what it felt like to be a teen, I guess that is the input you think would be valuable to us. I just was wondering what value it was to you to be here, but I guess you are just an altruistic person who wants to help others. I just really got the feeling that you don't want or even like kids. My Bad, sorry,
Post away......
Julie
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