What age to date?

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Registered: 03-28-2003
What age to date?
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Thu, 10-26-2006 - 10:32am
My daughter 1s 14 1/2, and has a couple of boys interested in her at school. No one has asked her out yet, but her friends have told her "so and so thinks you're cute" etc...
I am scared to death of the thought of her riding in a teenaged boy's car, more than anything else. We have talked regularly and fairly extensively about sex and the consequences. I have a 2 year old daughter who has been sort of difficult to raise (in addition to two other children), so she has seen how hard it is to have a baby, and I think that has helped. I am not AS worried about the sex part (but I realize we need to have an open communication on that) as I am with her going in someone's car. I just remember how crazy guys were when I was young, and we live in an area with curvy back roads.
I know I will have to let her get into someone's car sooner or later. This all just feels so weird to me as a mom!!! Right now, the rule I came up with is, at first, she can go to the boy's house as long as his parents are there (and I WILL talk to them) or vice versa, or if they want to go somewhere, I'll happily chauffeur. I want to get to know the boy a bit before she goes jaunting off in his car somewhere. She seems okay with the rules, but I am not sure how that will change once she actually gets asked out.
Moms...what have you done with your daughters at the start of their dating experiences?

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Registered: 03-28-2003
Thu, 10-26-2006 - 9:49pm
I'm having a bad day too...fighting with aol (took FIVE calls and a bunch of idiots) about them billing me for service for the last year when we didn't even have aol! Grrr!!!
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Registered: 07-21-2006
Fri, 10-27-2006 - 7:45am
My rule was no single dating until age 16. Generally at 14 and 15 it is natural for them to group date anyway. I drove (a lot)and picked up. The mall, movies, a friend's house, the usual. We lived rural also and it was a fear for me to have them out on the backroads. She was fine with the no single dating rule since she preferred to have another couple along.

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