What to do?

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What to do?
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Tue, 10-02-2007 - 11:30pm

I posted this on another board, so I'm cutting and pasting here:


First, I pretty much stay out of ds16's school business--papers, reading, etc is all on him.

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Registered: 07-21-2007
In reply to: mjaye2002
Wed, 10-03-2007 - 3:02am

Hi,


With his permission, I would intervene. From what you wrote, it doesn't seem that he is lying. I would talk to the teacher and if she was not willing to make an effort to check handwritings or to look for it, I would go talk to the principal. If your ds put that much work into it, he deserves all the support you can give lest he feel abandoned and slip into "what's the use" mode.


Jason

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Registered: 12-14-2006
In reply to: mjaye2002
Wed, 10-03-2007 - 7:40am

I think you should offer to talk to the teacher - your son may not want you to, but if it's OK with him, you can follow through.

We had a similar incident in 9th grade - DD was threatened with getting "no grade" for History because the teacher had no record of her handing in the book. She insisted she did, had a specific memory of handing it in. I called and left a message for the teacher, and the next day the book showed up.

Sue, mom to Leah and Seth


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Registered: 08-14-2006
In reply to: mjaye2002
Wed, 10-03-2007 - 8:18am
I would definitely talk to the teacher. If your DS did not hand in the paper, I can't imagine him letting you go to teacher without telling you the truth, cause in that case I am sure there would be other things he wouldn't want the teacher to tell you. Like you I think I would trust in my DS that he did do the paper. I know my DS had a definite personality clash with a teacher in High School. No answer he ever gave was right, even the rest of the class noticed it. Even though this is a different teacher than he had last year, they do talk among themselves about different students! My DD did a paper her senior year for a class and got an A, but her best friend failed the paper. She admitted the teacher did not like D and always gave him a lower grade. His paper was very similar to DD's, so friends Mom took a copy of DD's paper to school to meet with the teacher and go over why his grade was so much lower. It got changed! My advice would be not to be too defensive, but still be firm. Good luck!
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Wed, 10-03-2007 - 3:29pm

Last year Jaryd had a science teacher that is famous for losing papers etc. She has had kids making up several labs a week or two before the exam, because they have to be in for the student to take the final exam, and she lost them. Kelsie had the same teacher and told me this, but I doubted her, but the more I heard over the last few years the less I doubted this woman is a problem.


Jaryd's problem was different with her. She really took a liking to him and when she lost his and another girls test that they both made up due to illness, she told Jaryd she thought he had a 96 so that was what she was giving him, the girl had to retake the test and was sent out into the hall during the class when they reviewed the test. Of course Jaryd took the 96, who wouldn't. There were other problems with this teacher too. Like asking my son if she handled discipline well during class. We had a talk with the principal about the situation. Thankfully he doesn't have her again this year.


If I were you I would check into the problem with the teacher and have your son be sure that the teacher knows when he hands in papers etc and that he has witnesses.

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In reply to: mjaye2002
Wed, 10-03-2007 - 4:45pm

I think I would intervene w/ the teacher if your DS's pleas fall on deaf ears.

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Wed, 10-03-2007 - 7:24pm

First, let me thank you for all of your replies.

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Thu, 10-04-2007 - 10:33am
Sorry I didn't reply earlier but I'm glad it all worked out.
Pam
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Thu, 10-04-2007 - 12:48pm

Glad it worked out!

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