What do I do now?
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|Mon, 02-28-2011 - 12:53am|
I've always told my daughter (age 17) that she could tell me anything, and that I would not get upset. She's pretty much been honest with me (I think). I've never caught her lying to me, anyway. Recently, she asked if she could go on the pill. (Seasonique-the kind that lets you have 4 periods a year) I asked if that was what she wanted it for, and she replied, "Yes mom, I still have my "V-card." I told her that I would get her an appt and she could discuss it with a doctor. If the doctor thinks it's safe, I told her it would be ok. I also told her that the pill was not a green light to have unprotected sex...to which she rolled her eyes. She doesn't have a bf, there's a boy she likes, but he lives 60 miles away.
The other issue is more tricky. She told me that she went to a party over the weekend and there was alcohol (among other things). Not too surprising these days. Then without my asking, she told me that she wanted me to know that she had a couple of drinks, but she didn't get drunk. She was offered other things(pot I'm guessing), but said no. I asked if she got in a car with anyone who'd been drinking, and she said no again. Then we had the talk (again) about all the stupid things that you might do drunk that you otherwise would never do, and how you might be taken advantage of. I asked where the kids at the party got alcohol, but she didn't know. It was just "there" I guess. I told her I was glad she was truthful with me, but at the same, underage drinking is illegal and there are consequences. I did not get mad or throw a fit and ground her. I'm concerned if I did that, she would just do whatever she wanted, but not tell me.
I'm a little uneasy. I don't want to be a permissive parent, but then again, if she makes a mistake, I don't want her to be afraid of me. I