What do I do?? Please advise...

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Registered: 04-14-2011
What do I do?? Please advise...
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Sat, 05-14-2011 - 10:12pm

My 17yo son over the past 6 months has gone from a honor role student to failing, lying to me, stealing, confessing to smoking "just weed" and acting like a brat....he has an appt. Monday with a therapist but tells me " I will go but I am not talking to anybody".

iVillage Member
Registered: 11-21-2004
Tue, 05-17-2011 - 8:04pm

Read what you said about putting a glass to the door at the therapists.

iVillage Member
Registered: 11-21-2004
Tue, 05-17-2011 - 3:35pm

Well I think you're headed in the right direction.

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Registered: 02-14-2000
Tue, 05-17-2011 - 9:08am

Gentle hugs to you. I did reply to the sub-thread down below. Glad he talked to a therapist and hopefully will continue with that. I know it's frustrating when you're the one paying all the bills and they won't tell you anything! Have you asked your other 2 ds's if they have any thoughts as to why this ds has had such a sudden down turn?

Pam
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Registered: 04-14-2011
Mon, 05-16-2011 - 10:18pm
Are u on FB?? Would like to add you...if u are uncomfortable with that I understand!!! I need all the support I can get...
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Registered: 10-16-1999
Mon, 05-16-2011 - 10:09pm

I know it's hard not knowing what your son is saying to the counselor, but look at it this way.... if your son is guarenteed that the counselor will not repeat everything he says to you, he may be more forthcoming with the counselor, thereby enabling the counselor to help him more.

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Registered: 04-14-2011
Mon, 05-16-2011 - 10:08pm
Thank you for ur kind words.....one day u think ur kids are happy and safe then the next...ur world is shattered!!! Thank u again!!!!
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Registered: 04-14-2011
Mon, 05-16-2011 - 10:06pm
Thank you for taking the time to respond...It is grately appreciated...funny how words from a person you have never met can brighten ur day!!! Thank you
iVillage Member
Registered: 04-14-2011
Mon, 05-16-2011 - 10:03pm

Well met with the counselor today..he says he sees no sign of depression ( only after a 50 min. visit???) but sees a rebellious and defiant teenager!!!..Only can tell me if he sees progress etc. BUT due to privacy issues he can't tell me what my son tells him....I feel like...."He's 17yo ...he has no rights"....I respect the privacy thing but still want to know...Felt like putting a glass to the door to listen...LOL..u just want

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Registered: 08-08-2009
Mon, 05-16-2011 - 12:15am

Dear Carolina.

Hugs to you and yours.

I don't know what to say because I never faced these types of problems.

I think I would just set him down and explain that there is a limit to what I can do for him.

iVillage Member
Registered: 10-16-1999
Sun, 05-15-2011 - 8:12am

It sounds as though your DS has undergone something of a personality change lately - are you SURE it's "just weed"?