Deleted my post after realizing your DD decided not to go...there's never a hard fast rule, each time is different. I find sometimes when the kids confide in us like this, they're actually begging us to keep them home, kwim?
I agree that sometimes they are kind of hoping that we will do something about the situation. I know there have been times that Kelsie tells me things and when i ask her what she thinks I should do, she tells me to do what I need to do.
Quote: "I definitely feel like I should "tell" but damn it why can't the rest of these kids' parents have a clue? Why do I have to take the risk of losing my dd's "trust" and guiding her straight because the rest of the parents have their heads in the sand?"
My advice is to keep your mouth shut unless you want to become clueless like the other parents. Don't break your daughter's trust. If she can't trust you then she won't open up. If she doesn't open up then you won't know what is going on in her life. Telling someone would sacrifice a tremendous amount of trust which you have obviously managed to build up until now.
The bottom line is if you break her confidence now, don't expect her to come to you in the future.
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Okay there are a few things here.
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Edited 2/19/2008 5:55 pm ET by kel7col4
Wow, that's a tough place you're in.
Deleted my post after realizing your DD decided not to go...there's never a hard fast rule, each time is different. I find sometimes when the kids confide in us like this, they're actually begging us to keep them home, kwim?
I don't get how the cops show up at their house and they never find out?
I agree that sometimes they are kind of hoping that we will do something about the situation. I know there have been times that Kelsie tells me things and when i ask her what she thinks I should do, she tells me to do what I need to do.
Quote: "I definitely feel like I should "tell" but damn it why can't the rest of these kids' parents have a clue? Why do I have to take the risk of losing my dd's "trust" and guiding her straight because the rest of the parents have their heads in the sand?"
My advice is to keep your mouth shut unless you want to become clueless like the other parents. Don't break your daughter's trust. If she can't trust you then she won't open up. If she doesn't open up then you won't know what is going on in her life. Telling someone would sacrifice a tremendous amount of trust which you have obviously managed to build up until now.
The bottom line is if you break her confidence now, don't expect her to come to you in the future.
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Edited 2/19/2008 5:56 pm ET by kel7col4
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