I do believe we fit in best with people like us the most.
I work with 20 and young 30 somethings with kids 6 and under or no kids. We get along and we chat but Im not forming deep friendships because I just can't get into diaper brand conversations anymore
So, while people different than us can inspire us and add interest to our lives, those like us add comfort IMO
So Ms Artsy needs to find an Art club-if she cant find it at school, what about the community? Is there a Weight Watchers group for teens in your area-even if she is just maintaining this might be a familiar group for her
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My husband and me-their parents! Really, that is what 'home' is and should be. Both mine have passed and I have no 'home' even though I'm sure the buildings still stand and the yard is still green.
I can relate to what you're saying here. I also lost my parents recently, within less than a year of each other, and I'm an only child too. It really does make you feel "rootless", at least at first. As you say, you do need to realize that your DH and kids are your family now. But it is a strange sensation to realize that your original family unit is gone, and that you are totally on your own with no one who really remembers your earlier history the way only your parents could.
It is even more than just having your parents around to remember those special family times. I find that without your parents (and especially your mother), there is no one who remembers all of those little stories about you when you were a
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I know you are concerned about your DD's adjusting to your new community, but these things take time.
I do believe we fit in best with people like us the most.
I work with 20 and young 30 somethings with kids 6 and under or no kids. We get along and we chat but Im not forming deep friendships because I just can't get into diaper brand conversations anymore
So, while people different than us can inspire us and add interest to our lives, those like us add comfort IMO
So Ms Artsy needs to find an Art club-if she cant find it at school, what about the community? Is there a Weight Watchers group for teens in your area-even if she is just maintaining this might be a familiar group for her
But my real answer to <<>
My husband and me-their parents! Really, that is what 'home' is and should be. Both mine have passed and I have no 'home' even though I'm sure the buildings still stand and the yard is still green.
Moving is hard and we did it a ton when I was young....and have done it some with my own family.....My mother always told me "it take two yrs"
In answer to your question what makes a house a home for teens is friends, friends, friends.
My DH & DSD moved into our house 5 yrs. ago when DSD was 12.
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I can relate to what you're saying here. I also lost my parents recently, within less than a year of each other, and I'm an only child too. It really does make you feel "rootless", at least at first. As you say, you do need to realize that your DH and kids are your family now. But it is a strange sensation to realize that your original family unit is gone, and that you are totally on your own with no one who really remembers your earlier history the way only your parents could.
We really do have a lot in common--I'm glad we connected and shared about this.
Sunnymom,
It is even more than just having your parents around to remember those special family times. I find that without your parents (and especially your mother), there is no one who remembers all of those little stories about you when you were a
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