What would you do ??

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Registered: 06-06-2007
What would you do ??
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Wed, 06-06-2007 - 6:27pm

My daughter age 15 (in high school) has been BF with 2 girls for 2 years now. Recently my daughter went away on a school event and when she returned her BF's said in a joking way they felt she she was spending too much time with the other girls she went away with . The comments by the 2 girls annoyed my daughter and she basically told them she wasn't going to stop being friends with other people but still wanted to be friends with them. The result was a breakdown in communication between the 3. My daughter and I have talked and she still wants to be friends with the original 2. I have told her she should just call them and talk to them. The problem is she doesn't feel comfortable calling and wants to just take things slowly by texting them. I feel the best way to resolve the matter is by just calling the girls and having her explain her how she felt and they can too. What would you suggest? I don't know if I should just leave her alone and let her work it out on her own or have her call the girls and work it out once and for all. Any suggestions ??

Thanks !!

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Registered: 10-16-1999
Wed, 06-06-2007 - 6:32pm

I'd let DD work this out on her own with her friends... it's one of those people skills that she'll need to pick up somewhere along the line anyway, and best do it with peers rather than in a working situation.

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Registered: 03-06-2006
Wed, 06-06-2007 - 7:37pm

I agree with Rose on this. As much as we would like to help 'fix' situations like this one, our teens are better served by letting them maneuver through them on their own. It does seem, too, that this generation of kids is far more comfortable with e-mail, aim or texting, that with actual conversation.

I don't know if this is a good thing or not, now that I think about it! But it is the way it is.

 

 

 

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Registered: 08-25-2000
Thu, 06-07-2007 - 9:06am
It sounds like the bf are quite posessive and dd moving on to other people may be a good thing.