What to you think.....

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What to you think.....
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Fri, 09-21-2007 - 9:31am

Some of you may remember a comment I made in a thread to another poster sometime back about thinking a sr boy, 18, had messed with my then freshman dd.

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Fri, 09-21-2007 - 10:01am

To what extent do you suspect he "messed" with your dd? And is there any evidence that anything happened or are you just guessing? Did your dd tell you something happened? Was she hurt by it? Was she guilty for perhaps being a part of a consensual act and then so scared about being found out that later was remorseful? That happens a lot. Girls do things and then later regret them and make it seem like they were taken advantage of. I'm not saying that's what happened with your dd, but could it be a possibility?


Since some time has passed since the alleged incident, is it possible for you to discuss it with your dd? I mean, she's not a freshman anymore and I'm assuming she's over it and has even dated other boys since then, so would she be open with you about what may or may not have happened?


When my then 15dd was kidnapped and sexually assaulted, part of her therapy was understanding how she allowed herself to get in a situation where this creton could move in and take advantage of her. It's not saying it was her fault at all...she was young and innocent in the ways of creeps in the world. And he was a 29 year old man who should have known to walk away from a 15 year old. But dd also should not have been talking to him on line and exchanging her cell number with him knowing he was 29 - see what I mean? If it had been my other dd, she would have disconnected and told me ASAP. But my 15dd didn't; his attentions