What's it like for the guys? ....

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Registered: 04-28-2005
What's it like for the guys? ....
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Tue, 10-09-2007 - 8:51am

I only have one dd - no boys - and sometimes when the drama starts I have to sit back and wonder how the guys are viewing the subject.


This past weekend was our homecoming and dd had looked forward to it for so long - it ended up being a real bummer for her and for her date.


"S" and dd have been friends since 8th grade - they are now sophomores in high school.

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Registered: 04-30-2000
Tue, 10-09-2007 - 9:29am

I don't have any sons either but I was wondering if you know his mom.

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Tue, 10-09-2007 - 9:37am

My boys have not personally been in this situation but I think the theme of a guy aggressively trying to win back a desired girl is a common theme in movies and books. I know of couples who have lived it and are married

IMO she needs to cut the cord completely. He is reading 'hope' into her actions and she needs to stop giving him hope. She can be polite and say HI in the hallways at school; she shouldnt leave a party because he is present but she should not treat him any differently than .....lets say a 10 yr old neighbor(or a 40 yr old neighbor-Im not trying to make the kid sound immature as much as make 'acquaintance' clear)

As a mom, if one of sons went to homecoming with an old GF I would assume there were plans to get back together. I think that was a big mistake

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Registered: 04-28-2005
Tue, 10-09-2007 - 9:52am

Hi Cheryl,


Thanks for your post.

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Registered: 04-28-2005
Tue, 10-09-2007 - 10:07am

Thanks windrush - we talked about her accepting his invitation to homecoming and whether or not it was giving him the wrong impression but dd was adamant about them talking about being just friends and in fact said he was interested in another girl right now anyway.

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Registered: 08-26-2007
Tue, 10-09-2007 - 10:23am

Getting upset and

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Registered: 04-28-2005
Tue, 10-09-2007 - 10:34am

Thanks Julie,


I'm not even pretending to think that my dd is totally innocent here and I'm sure if I were a mouse in the halls of the high school, I would see a little something from her end too.

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Registered: 08-26-2007
Tue, 10-09-2007 - 10:49am

I think that you even caring about the boy makes you a good mom, and I really wish more moms of girls would and could care more.

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Registered: 02-14-2000
Tue, 10-09-2007 - 10:54am

I think it's very difficult if not impossible for kids to go back to being good friends after they've 'gone out'.

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Registered: 10-16-1999
Tue, 10-09-2007 - 1:17pm




Two of my three DSs have a lot of friends who happen to be girls, the third has a few, but generally sees girls as more "date material" than "friend material."

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Registered: 04-28-2005
Tue, 10-09-2007 - 1:28pm

Hi Rose,


I want my dd to read your reply when she gets home tonight.

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