When Dad has trouble letting go??
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When Dad has trouble letting go??
| Wed, 11-07-2007 - 1:18pm |
As DD's senior year progresses, she is becoming more independent and spends less and less time at home with her family.

Not really a word of wisdom but I was in your dd's shoes back when I was in college (I'm also an only; for that matter I have an only by choice)
OMG!!
Dad is likely feeling powerless and as if he is losing control-therefore he will find it wherever he can.
The more positive ways you can make him feel in control, the more he will back off
Perhaps you need to involve him more in the decision making. It does sounds like you know what is happening before it happens and he finds out afterwards
If you had said "DD is taking off work so she can go to Edna's Halloween party-isnt that sweet-this is her last year to do that" well ahead of time, do you think he might have reacted more reasonably?
Right now you likely feel he would have forbidden it but.....you might want to try it and see what happens. Ask how many colleges he thinks she should apply to or if she should take her car with her when she goes. I know, we would prefer to make all those decisions because we are the mom and we are always right(and we tend to have educated ourselves while they know their childhood and nothing else)but its worth a try
This seems to be quite common -
I can see this happening w/ DH & his senior DD (his only child).