When Mom Is Sick

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Registered: 07-19-2003
When Mom Is Sick
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Sun, 01-07-2007 - 10:03am

I'm sure I won't be shocking anyone here when I vent about how difficult it is to be a mom and be under the weather...

My kids have had colds on and off for a few weeks and something's been going around the office so it was just a matter of time until I got it. I took a sick day Friday because I am congested and coughing and sick to my stomach. Friday the kids were busy with friends so I got SOME opportunity to relax. Yesterday I felt a little better so I took them to the movies to celebrate last weekend of Xmas break. They'll be back to school and busy again and I will be going into a busy work period so I figured we should have one last night out.

But this AM it hit me with a vengeance. I feel AWFUL and all I wanted to do was lie in bed. My 11 yo son wouldn't leave me be and made tons of racket with his games. My 15 yo dd is used to a Sunday morning routine where we have a nice breakfast and read the Sunday papers and was sulking for half an hour that I wouldn't get up with her. My mom wants me to take the kids over to her place for lunch telling me I could just as easily lie down at her place... The beds remain undone, the kitchen is a mess -- ARRGGHHHH....

You know I had hoped as my kids got older they could take some of this pressure off of me. But unless I tell them to do something it never gets done. And when I don't feel well and just want to rest, its like they can't just look around and see what they could do to help out!!!

Okay...vent over....

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Registered: 01-16-2007
Fri, 01-19-2007 - 7:03pm
I know exactly how you feel. when i'm sick practicly nothing gets done, my kids (son-16 daughter-13)will cook for themselves,but they don't clean upafter themselves when i'm sick.They take advantage of the fact that i'm sick & won't see the mess,or i guess thats what they think. (hello i do get up to go to the bathroom!)They also try to get away w/ things when i'm sick& i'm a single parent so i don't have anyone to help me.So basically I got alot of housework to do when i'm all better,cuz i can't stand to look at it till the kid's get home from school.Be glad that if you ask your kid's to do something that they do it, i know it's a pain to have to tell them to do it when your sick, but it's more of a pain when you tell them to do it they tell you yeah i will & they don't or they do such a half a** job that it's just as bad as not doing it.I'm just thankfull that i'm not sick very offten,i tell myself it could be worse. Well I hope you're feeling better now.
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Registered: 01-16-2007
Sat, 01-20-2007 - 12:27am

Yes, it's true! Mom's never get any rest when sick. That is why I'll go to work when I am sick! It's quiet, there's no mess to look at and no one is asking you to cart them around (unless you're in public transportation). I have to be walking death not to show up for work!
It is easy to say, "oh, don't worry about the mees, it'll get cleaned later", but I for one am with you! I have a difficult time recouperating in a messy house or even in my mom's house (same difference).
I am like the broken record, reminding my three teens to take care of their pets, do their laundry, etc...U think they'll listen any better when I'm sick? I don't think so!
I just tell them point blank, "I really need you guys to help out right now". Then I would send them along with Grandma and get some well deserved sleep!

I agree with the other post about going to the beach!

Hope you feel better soon! :)

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Registered: 07-26-1997
Mon, 01-22-2007 - 5:08am
Sounds like my house. If you don't say anything. And even if you do. It still doesn't mean the work gets done. The garbage can be over flowing. You'd think my 17 almost 18 yr old son would take it out. He says well you did't ask. Now getting sick is no better. I still am expected to do what I always do at home. The other week I had the nasty virus. I told our son he had to make dinner for him and dad. He whines about what to cook. Then gets dh to stop on the way home from his music lesson for fast food. Because he's to lazy to find something in the fridge for dinner. Then when the sick was at its worst. I'm laying in the bed because the diziness was to much for me to handle. Our son had the nerve to ask me. When am I taking down the Christmas tree and outside lights. It's past New Years. Yeah well it can stay up all the way til spring. Because moms to sick to take it down right now. A couple days later I took the tree down when the sick wasn't as bad. The whole time I was sick. My son didn't see the dishes had to be done,things could be picked up around the main part of the house at least, garbage taken out etc. Things stayed a pig till I was better. Same goes in the summertime. He don't notice the grass needs cutting. Not till dh gets all over him about it. He knows dad is disabled with MS and can't cut the grass.

 

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