When should parents get involved????
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When should parents get involved????
| Fri, 07-20-2007 - 1:16pm |
My 13 yr old just got smacked in the face at the local girls softball game by another girl that is just the evilest little thing around, she is the epitamy of the queen bee and has caused other girls to get involved and in turn are socializing her out of everything. I expressed my anger to the coaches in the middle of the game but the girl was still able to play so I feel that my outbursts were taken litely. Since they were friends before all this drama started, should I get involved or should I just wait it out. Note: This has been going on back and forth since Jan. I am fed up!!!!!!

First off - hugs to you and your DD! What an awful situation!!
Usually, I try to let my DD solve her problems - when she was younger, I was more likely to get involved, but as a teen, she needs to figure stuff out. Also, teen friendships go up and down - what seems huge and friendship-ending one day has blown over the next.
BUT - being smacked in the face seems different. I would not be happy if another girl actually HIT my daughter! IMHO, I'd go back to the coach and ask for help in resolving this. Did the coach witness it? Were there other girls around? Did your DD say something (maybe you didn't hear it) that affects how the coach reacts? I think there should be no tolerance for physical violence, but I guess I'd have to find out what the league's policy is about this.
Having said that, it will probably only make the situation worse with the girls. I would totally leave it up to your DD how involved she wants you to be. If you she wants you to try to stop it I would start with the girl's parents, not the coaches.
Good luck.