When teenage sisters cover...

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Registered: 06-25-2007
When teenage sisters cover...
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Mon, 06-25-2007 - 4:50pm

I never thought I would have an issue with this...my girls are 2 1/2 years apart and most certainly have a love/hate relationship. They share a room and until recently, my biggest problem has been tattling over stupid stuff. Well...be careful what you wish for. Last weekend, my daughter had a boy come over to "visit" for about an hour. (She's 16) I specifically asked my younger daughter why her sister was up so late and her sister (who is 14) looked right at me and said "I have no idea". When I found out about the boy, I also found out that my younger daughter was in and out of the room SEVERAL times...so I knew then, that she knew about it and blatantly lied.

So...I found out on Sunday about the boy and yanked both of them on the carpet...one for the crime and one for covering. The older one got a harsher punishment (for actually commiting the "crime") but we decided to assign some manual labor to both of them...we wrote a list of about 8 things that needed to be done around the house...the younger of the two (who commited the lesser of the crimes) got to choose FIRST what her sister what would be assigned, then the older one chose a task for the younger sibling. I figured it would be ironic if the "partners in crime" had to choose the punishments. (It was pretty effective as well)

I think it is fair to assume this isn't the first time this has happened, and I'm sure it won't be the last. Does anyone else have any suggestions on how to handle something like this? I don't expect them to snitch over every little thing, but this was somewhat major and I will not tolerate the blatant lies. How about punishments...any clever ideas to nip this in the bud?

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Registered: 04-29-2003
Tue, 06-26-2007 - 2:22pm

"I'm with you on this one, dadfor6. I can't believe sneaking a boy into the room doesn't cause anyone to raise eyebrows!!! A boy in a 16yo girl's room doesn't sound like a good idea to me! I'd put that one up there with serious"

I guess the Main reason why we who didn't look at this as serious is because the 14 yr old sister was with the 16 yr old. I wasn't addressing getting the 16 yr old in trouble, she should get in trouble. It was the point of not getting the 14 yr old in trouble for lying to cover for her sis.

I think also, we were more talking that we didn't think that that was endangering her sister, she knew it, she was sitting with them, so thus the reason we wouldn't think she would "snitch".

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