Whos more educated? Husband or wife?
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| Fri, 04-14-2006 - 5:51pm |
I don't want to offend anyone with this question but posts like the one from the mom with the college daughter whose BF is playing video games all day made me decide to go ahead and ask
Back in my day, it was rather typical for the guy to be more educated than the girl. My parents wanted my brother to college. They agreed that I could go but it was still less expected back then for a girl than a boy
When I look at my peers in their 40s and 50s, I am hard pressed to find a couple where the female is significantly more educated than the male. They might both have bachelors-one might have a few hours more than the other but I dont know any circumstances where the woman has a masters and the guy has a HS diploma
OTOH, I see this with my 20 something coworkers quite a bit.
Is it just my experience or is this a trend?
DS1's GF is far more motivated than him!! She has goals and dreams. He is taking classes at the community college only because he feels a sense of competition with her since she is younger.
I dont know if she would drop him if he failed to move ahead or not; I know its a source of many arguments for them

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Boy, now you bring up the sore point to me - that wonderful glass ceiling for women.
I have more 'pieces of paper' than dh (2 BS, 2 MS vs. his one BA) but his PhD advisor died while he was about 1/3 into his thesis, and the committee decided they wanted him to start over...he had no money left and no patience, so he left. He didn't get his MS because that cost money he didn't have while on his way to his PhD. So all he has is his BA as far as pieces of paper. He makes more, is only one year older...and is definitely more intelligent than I am - he can pick up a book on anything and know how to do it after reading it, and goes outside the box to boot. Plus he enjoys being management; I like just sticking with techincal stuff but that just doesn't pay; at least not here...
Sue
I can honestly say I am more educated than my DH. I have a Master's plus an additional 15 graduate hours. He has a Bachelor's degree. My oldest DD will have a graduate degree in about a year. It remains to be seen what the youngest will do but she's going to college.
I think you are right. Females are more motivated now than they used to be. I think the divorce rate has alot to do with that. They realize that someday it may be just them supporting their kids. Alot of them have watched their mom or an aunt or someone struggle in this position. By being working mother's we've also taught our DD's first-hand the value of good work ethics. They realize that if they want a flexible job that allows them family time AND a decent paycheck, they have to bring something more to the table than the man - this comes in the form of an education.
Good topic.
Betty,
I might be a bit oversensitive on the subject... the guidance counselors at school have done their best to discourage my DSs from enlisting because "you are able to do so much better, why waste yourself?"
S'ok. I can understand why you flinch now. That's terrible that anyone would look down on someone for wanting to serve the armed forces. Shame on them. What has this world come to?
BTW I understand that 25% of all freshman in public university do not finish BA. Its 20% for private university. Clearly, not everyone is ready for college who goes at 18.
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