Why do kids lie?
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| Fri, 12-01-2006 - 1:39pm |
I remember someone having a message about this some time ago. My question specifically relates to my 16 yo DSD. Last night my DH went to sleep unusually late for him (11:30) since he had today off. I went to bed right before and could clearly hear my DSD talking from her room, then apparently he did too and went in her room and asked her who she was talking on the phone with. She said she wasn't talking, it was the radio! Now my DH has had big problems in the past regarding her & the cell phone. A couple of years ago, it was going over the minutes big time and there were a lot of other problems going on between them at that time too.
I guess she is getting more sophisticated in her usage now since she has figured out that when she's home after school, she shouldn't use her cell phone. It seems what she does now is wait til we're in bed and then talk on the phone. I don't know how she does it, cause we always used to be able to hear her since her room is next to ours. I figure in the summer, the sound of the a/c going would drown it out, but now? Either she talks really really soft I don't know what...
Anyway, I don't know what my DH was saying to her, but I think he came back in our room and said did you hear her talking and I said yes. So he went back in her room to check her phone. I guess she had time to erase the record of calls received & made, but that made him suspicious because there was no record at all of any calls made to her yesterday and he had called her, so it was obvious she erased them. So he asked me to check on line and see if she was on the phone last night. Of course, she was, from about 10:30 to 11:30, which was the time he went in her room. Then again right before midnight, she called the same person back, just for a couple of minutes (probably to say, sorry I had to hang up but my father caught me.)
Now is this girl totally stupid? I have mentioned to her in the past that there is a record of every call made and she knows we can go on line to find out. I know my DH is going to be more upset that she lied to him. He might get mad that she was on the phone late at night, but as a parent, I would rather have my kid say "I'm sorry. I was wrong" than lie. Esp. when it's something that's so easy to get caught at. She has had this habit many times before. When we had the problem about her being on her phone before, DH would go in her room and she would deny being on the phone when we could hear her clearly (and he's hard of hearing). Like, does she think we are that dumb? or is it that she's just afraid to be caught doing something wrong? I just don't get it. She just had a bad report card and my DH isn't too happy w/ her anyway. I only printed out the one page of the bill for last night. She used about 2000 minutes this month and there were many instances of her being on the phone late at night, which isn't good for a kid who doesn't do well in school. I guess she hasn't learned from the experience of having her phone taken away before!

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Well, I am going thru the same thing. My dd was sending lots of text messages. Okay, she got 300 a month included with her phone, she has never used that many. Then all of the sudden, about 5 days after our account cleared and started over for the month, she had went wayyy over! Well, I called and got the unlimited added to take care of the other incoming (I knew if I told her she couldn't send anymore, that wouldn't stop others from sending them and I didn't want to pay for them.) Anyway, I kept checking our account, she was in the thousands of text messages. I kept watching, waiting for it to blow up on her. Finally it did.
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Okay, she knows I can check when she has been talking on the phone, what time and all, but with text messages, I just know how many. That is why she was text messaging rather than talking. And all this was on school nights. One night when she was supposed to be in bed, I walked in her room and she was actually talking on the cell phone. She said it was her friend "C" but the caller id would show this boy "T" because C and T live in the same house and C didn't want to use her minutes all up so she was on T's phone. Well, I guess she thought I was born yesterday, it was NIGHT (FREE), it was MOBILE TO MOBILE (FREE), uhhmmm, last time I checked, C wouldn't be using any minutes! Now that was a badddd lie! That is when she finally came clean and said she was text messaging late at night. Must have been all night at times!
Needless to say, she no longer has a cell phone. I have it put in my drawer, hidden. She gets to talk on the house phone, in the kitchen or living area only. That night, I told her that lying would come back to get her, maybe not immediately, but it would, and it did!
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