The winner of the worst mom in the world
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The winner of the worst mom in the world
| Wed, 07-18-2007 - 3:42pm |
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Edited 9/1/2007 2:25 pm ET by kel7col4
Edited 9/1/2007 2:25 pm ET by kel7col4


It's so hard to get teenagers to see how things could affect them in the future. My DH did martial arts for years when he was a teenager and now he will probably need knee & hip replacements due to all the kicking. He's only 52 and walks like an old man. (Of course, I always tell him that he's old anyway and he reminds me I will be old enough to join AARP this year myself.)
As far as the driver's license stuff, don't you hate having to be responsible for stuff like that? DH took his DD to do her driving test and she almost didn't get her license because he didn't have the registration in his car, then he found it. I don't get why he would need the registration because y ou don't have to take the test in your own car, you can use the driver's ed car.
I feel like that every time I get a form from the collge. This is our first time and everything seem so complicated. Of course, I get to do everything. The ex lucks out because the fin. aid forms only require my info and when I ask DH for his info, he gets resentful, like that means that the ex won't have to pay. I try to explain that one thing has nothing to do w/ the other. Oh, when DSD goes to college next year, guess who will be filling out all the forms for her too? Because I know how to do it.
I would just try to hold on until tomorrow to see what the doctor says and take it one day at a time. I know that's easier said then done. Is your daughter considering cheering in college? I'm assuming she's a junior? She'll need to think how this injury will affect future plans. Can she stay on the squad but not build or fly?
We went through a similar situation although my daughter wasn't as intense with her love for cheer, though she enjoyed every minute of it.
She hurt her wrists trying to catch a flyer that fell the wrong way. The surgeon didn't want to perform surgery just yet as she was so young for such a surgery. He wanted time to let her wrists heal and eventually set both wrists in casts for 4 weeks. I flat out asked him what would he do if this were his daughter and she asked to continue to cheer. He then suggested that perhaps she could continue to cheer but not build which is what we did. The squad also didn't want to lose her so they agreed to the arrangement. Even today, two years later, she still has pain in both wrists if she uses them the wrong way or grabs for something (like a door) that is too heavy. That was the price she paid to continue to cheer. I often wonder if I should have gone ahead and forbid her to cheer completely once the injury happened but she was entering her senior year and I'm sure you know how that is.
I'm not sure if she would have done things differently but she's paying a price for a few years of glory. Just my thoughts.
Regarding the birth certificate, etc. Just a bump in the road. Don't sweat the small stuff. We all go through that! And you are so NOT the world's worst mother! Just a mother that wants to see her kids happy and enjoying life.
I understand how you feel about filling out college forms. I've done the same for my two daughters. My war cry is "Do I have to do EVERYTHING" but then, it's important to me, so, yes, I went ahead and filled out the forms. Please remember that these forms are vital to receiving any amount of financial aid (I assuming you might be filing the FAFSA form or other financial aid material). Once you do it, the next year it's a breeze as all of the information rolls over. It just seems so overwhelming with the first child because you've been through college applications, transcripts, etc. and now financial aid but know that it's important and you'll thank yourself in the long run.
Just be happy that your children are healthy, happy and going off to college.
When we're worn down from so many things going at once, it is difficult to stay at the top of our game (mothering/fathering), isn't it?
Lately, I have been so overwhelmed and at times have felt like I've steered dd wrong or dropped the ball or was overzealous and backed off only to learn she needed me more than ever. It stinks, we are not mind readers and no one expects us to be. I'm sure you've had moments where you wonder what some parent was "thinking to allow their kid to do _____________ (fill in the blank)??" Or, "How in the world could that parent be so oblivious?" "Or forgetful?" lol.
It happens to all of us at one time or another. Just remind yourself that you love your dd and in all decision making on her behalf you've kept her best interests and safety at heart. Try to let go of any guilt and stop second guessing yourself so much. As parents we can only do the best we can with what we have...and while what we have may not always be enough, it's all we have, kwim? Believe me, I have second guessed many MANY things concerning my 17dd along the way. I still do it. I wonder what if I did it this way or that? "Maybe I should have, would have or could have...".
Take heart, hon, you are not alone.
Edited 9/1/2007 2:26 pm ET by kel7col4
Edited 9/1/2007 2:27 pm ET by kel7col4